Ray
Appearances
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m in Love With Two Brothers
No, but he doesn't have anything because he's a med student. He's never even had a job. So everything we have is mine anyway. You know what I mean? Like legally.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m in Love With Two Brothers
I don't know. I don't know community and, and taking time for myself, I guess. But I mean, it's also him. And like, I think that the idea of writing a will, like just makes me, it's like accepting defeat.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m in Love With Two Brothers
Um, not regularly. I do have, I do have my community. Um, I think recently I've definitely put that on the back burner. We're going to bring it back and we're going to do two things.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m in Love With Two Brothers
Cool. I try not to think about that, but I know it needs to be thought about.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m in Love With Two Brothers
I'm doing well, thank you. Awesome. I'm calling to ask this question. How can I be everything that my husband needs me to be right now while also taking care of myself in a very difficult season of life?
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m in Love With Two Brothers
So I'm 28. My husband is 27. We've been married for two and a half years. um and so he's a med student last summer um he started to get really sick and was throwing up every day um but that was leading up to the step two um test which is a medical board exam that they had to take in med school um and so we didn't think much of it it's pretty normal for him to get
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m in Love With Two Brothers
anxiety, like physical anxiety symptoms. Um, but then after this, he finished this test and he got his grade back and his grade was good. The symptoms didn't stop. Um, and so we were like, okay, something is, is going on.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m in Love With Two Brothers
Um, and so the, I'm a teacher and the day before the first day of school, I was like, look, we've got to go to the emergency room because I'm not going to be able to like help you out. Like while I'm teaching, like I'm not going to be able to answer my phone if you're feeling really sick, things like that. So we went to the emergency room and
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m in Love With Two Brothers
And he was thinking maybe something was wrong with his gallbladder because he's having like right upper quadrant pain, whatever. So they did an ultrasound and they saw some dark spots in his liver. They did a CT scan in the emergency room. They found about 10.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m in Love With Two Brothers
lesions in his liver we got transferred over to the oncology unit um and the next day this was august 2nd of this year so just a couple months ago um they found a tumor in his esophagus so you know the whole day before they found the tumor we were praying like lymphoma or maybe it's just in the liver but with finding the tumor in the esophagus you know we found out at stage four that's way way down the road there yeah
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m in Love With Two Brothers
Yeah. And so we talked to the oncologist. He gave a prognosis of a year and a half to two years. And this is talking to a 27 year old man and his 28 year old wife. And, you know, prognosis is just averages. And, you know, he said that he's hoping and praying that that's not going to be the case because most people with esophageal cancer are like 60, 70 year old men.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m in Love With Two Brothers
So there's hope and things have been getting better. We started treatment. He's done five or six rounds of treatment now. We got a CT scan a couple of weeks ago and showing minor, I don't know if you hear my dog, I'm sorry. Minor shrinkage, like millimeters. So there's good news. But anyway, I say all that to say, I have been
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m in Love With Two Brothers
completely pouring myself out to him is I feel like I should in this season. I don't think that's a bad thing, but I also am neglecting myself and I want to be sure that I'm taking care of myself so that I can be the best I can be to take care of him. Um, and so I just kind of wanted to get your thoughts on what I should be doing.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m in Love With Two Brothers
I've had some moments. I'm overall a pretty positive, upbeat person. I think overall, I'm usually like that still. I've definitely had my moments. I'm trying to work. I'm working two to three days a week, which is really hard being a teacher working two to three days a week. They've put my kids...