Renata Wiles

And you're like,

Why did I pay for this?

And now we're like back out on the street needing something else to do.

Yeah.

You know, now with the cost of petrol as well, if you're driving somewhere, say you're driving across the city to go to something and it's not what you expected, it's disappointing.

Your kid doesn't like it.

It's not what the Google reviews said it was going to be like, you know, it's even more disappointing because you're like, we just paid quite a lot of petrol to get here, you know?

So I think it's, it's those little costs that all add up over time, especially if you're a stay at home parent and you're looking for things to do like effectively every day.

background load to things is also quite hard right yeah for me the transition from going from no kids to one kid was significantly harder than going from one kid to two kids same because I feel like for me the hardest part of becoming a parent was that loss of my previous life and so where I could just go out for dinner with my friends whenever I wanted I could you know go on a holiday if I wanted I could pick a restaurant based on my own needs suddenly I'm having to think about like

somebody else all the time and just losing that kind of like a bit of freedom and you know working in a job that I really love you know losing that kind of like corporate identity and then also becoming a mother and just everything changing all at once I found that transition so hard whereas when I had my second it was like well I'm already used to you know thinking about naps or thinking about nappies or thinking about have I got wipes in the bag or thinking about like what playground is going to be suitable for my kids today and so a lot of that stuff

was different second time around to first time.

But first time I found it so hard because it's like, you don't know what you don't know.

And, you know, we had, we have this prams like quite wide and I've been like, is it going to, you know, is it going to fit?

I had this one instance, like in a cafe where it was like getting caught on every single chair as we're walking through.

And I was like, never again, we're never coming back here.

Yeah, it's dead to me.

And so it's like those kind of things that I had never had to think about before.

I would look at a cafe online and be like, oh, it looks kind of like trendy.

I'll go there, you know, probably got a good coffee.

And now I'm thinking like, but is there a change table?