Reuben Williams

Like this was a guy who like previously I'd lie awake at night thinking about what I would do to him if I bumped into him in the street.

And here I was asking about his wellbeing.

And I kind of thought, and I was like, why is that?

And firstly, like the thing that I'd come to recognize is that my perpetrator is a deeply troubled man who needs help.

And the second one was that I had spent too long thinking that for me to heal and to move on from this, I need justice to happen.

Turns out the healing happened when I decided I didn't need justice because

And I said to myself, thank God you let go of that because the day that you tie your healing to someone else's consequences, you give them the keys to your recovery and no perpetrator deserves that much power.

I remember someone saying to me like not wanting something is as good as having it.

And I found that to be true with justice.

Wow.

And, um, and I don't know when, when that occurred, but, um,

I walked away from that thinking like, okay, I think you passed the test.

I think everyone was just so incredibly upset for me and just appalled and shocked as well.

Like I had, um, six or seven witnesses, um, on my side of the story.

He had none.

And, um, even when I was went into the police station for the first time, they said like, you know, we think there's enough here to, to get a conviction.

despite everything, it still got overturned.

And so everybody's responses, including my dad was just, just shocking and appalled for, for what had transpired.

Yeah.

Yeah, absolutely.