Richard Reeves

And what that means is that the question of what does it mean to be a father?

What does it mean to be?

It quotes breadwinner when you're not going to be the sole breadwinner anymore.

That's a question.

And it's the result of the greatest economic liberation in human history, which is the rise of women.

And I think you'd have to be very odd indeed not to celebrate that fact.

And pretty much everyone does really celebrate that fact.

except, again, some of these fringes online maybe.

So that's great.

But we shouldn't be naive and ignore the fact that that does raise questions.

I'm in my 50s, so even for my generation, it's like, okay, my dad was the breadwinner and had a great marriage and great relationship.

I'm not the sole breadwinner.

In fact, I was a stay-at-home dad for a while.

And so it's a very different kind of negotiation that we're having in our relationships now.

And if you just think it's naive to think that that isn't going to

cause some friction that isn't going to be difficult and then especially for the men with less economic power like I'm doing it from a position of great privilege economically speaking working class men when without men without college degrees their wages have been flat effectively for decades

And so it's not just a relative loss of position between men and women.

It's in many cases a loss of absolute position.

These men are actually no richer than their fathers were at the same age.

That's a massive cultural shock.