Rick Glassman

It's not just a look thing.

It's really like the best I could explain it is like people that wear contacts, even if it's not hurting you, you know they're there.

It's hard to be present if you're feeling things.

And when you make love or even have sex with a condom, it's like I'm having sex with contacts.

So I'm just aware, I'm aware they're there.

You know what I'm saying?

I'm blinking a lot.

And, uh, that's why I've, I've learned.

And I think this is a good practice indirectly to never, uh, have, be like that physically intimate with somebody who you don't feel safe explaining to them, Hey, I'm not present with you right now.

You know what I mean?

Um, I, maybe we can make out for a little bit or we could, why don't we go get tested so we don't have to wear these.

And I feel that way in friendships as well as a metaphor.

I like to bust balls.

I like when people fight, I like playful banter and repartee.

I don't pick up very well on when other people don't like it.

And what I have found is, and I don't think this is exclusive to relationships with me, I just think when people, anything, but I'll say play for this example, it's a lot easier to just go with the flow

and just drain your battery a little bit than it is to say, hey, I think you're joking, I'm not sure, I don't like playing this way.

Could you explain your intention or even if I know your intention, I don't know, something about it when you comment on this or that.

as much as I don't take it as my responsibility to like make sure other people feel safe, like they could set their own boundaries.

I also recognize that some people don't feel comfortable setting their boundaries, at least not yet.