Rick Glassman

Also, if it's funny enough...

You know what I'm saying?

I feel there's a hack to shame and that's finding a bit in it.

I'm embarrassed about this thing, but if I could say something funny about it, I don't know.

Is that because now I feel valuable and I use it as a tool?

Is it because I now am being seen in a way that isn't the way that I thought I would be seen?

Is it just the connection I have with somebody who could relate to it?

Whatever it is, if you can make a bit out of something...

It's easier, right?

And I feel this way.

I mean, of course, then there's like, oh, you're joking all the time.

I'm not saying make everything a joke.

What I'm saying is...

If there's an uncomfortable conversation, there is craft involved into either saying things like setting expectations properly.

Hey, there's something that's been on my mind.

It's not that deep, but it's something that bothers me.

We don't have to talk about it now, but do you have five minutes of space I could let you know something that I've been feeling a little embarrassed about?

It lets the other person make a choice to do that.

Sure, and that's a great tool.

Another one is that's not as exhausting and asking so much of the other person, especially if it doesn't really involve them is,