Rick Glassman

uh, showing a person who you are and them showing who you are and more about, which I don't, I don't like this, but it's more about like showing up in a certain way that you're supposed to, and they'll do the same.

And then over time that degrades into who you actually are, but you can't show up as you actually are on a first date because they're going to be like, Oh, he farts on a first date.

What is he going to do on the second date?

I'm going to fart again.

So, so,

FaceTiming, I think, and it's not specific to FaceTime.

It could be like if, you know, we're not making a commitment to each other and you're on, you know, you're with a group of other people and like you're getting to see a little dynamic without feeling the pressure of needing to wear a certain outfit and ask how many brothers and sisters you have and like get to know the person.

I think FaceTiming, because you could also always just hang up.

Yeah, I mean, it's also when you say safety, it's not just physical safety.

There's also just like your own, you know, your social battery and your sense of comfort.

And like, depending on the person, if you're not enjoying it, do you just, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Or do you say things like, I've learned so much about how to communicate with people by editing my podcast.

And when I watch myself communicate

I used to, when I would get bored in a conversation, not that the other person's boring, not that I was meaning to judge them, but I would just be honest saying, hey, I'm a little bored with this.

And like, we talk about something different.

Some people, it seemed like they received it well.

Some people may be like, oh, and that became the topic of conversation.

Then we would talk about communication, whatever.

But I would watch myself.

And as I'm watching from the audience, I would see I'm not bored what this person is talking about on the monitor.