Rick Glassman

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If somebody doesn't make me laugh or teach me something or feed me or make me come, and I don't mean me, I mean a human being, I believe, then what value are they offering me?

Now, I'm not to say if you make me come and that's all you do, that this is a healthy relationship, but I mean this quite literally.

If you don't feed somebody, if you're not their boss and they pay you, if there isn't some value that you're offering me,

Am I just supposed to be a good guy and just be like, no, it's okay.

He's a nice guy.

I want to listen.

I don't understand the connection.

That they're unable to really offer you anything?

I don't mean every interaction has to be valuable to me.

I would argue that by being able to show up for somebody in a selfish way makes you feel valuable.

It's this idea of when you give to charity, are you doing it because it makes you feel good or because you're helping them?

Absolutely both.

I'm glad it makes me feel good or they wouldn't get this help.

So I don't mean everything I need to be constantly entertained or, you know, constantly validated by something.

I just mean in a relationship as a whole, like, do you have any friends that you were friends with as a kid and they're kind of grandfathered in and like, you love this person and you hang out with this person, but whenever you're with them, it's just, this is boring.

I'm still friends with this person because I love this person and I care about this person.

I'm not excited to be around them and I'm not.

It's just a little boring.

So like, but when you're just meeting somebody and after three dates or three friendships,