Rick Glassman

And maybe that's like what you're saying of like, oh, it messes up the momentum or changes things because... Anyway, it's just an interesting perspective that I hadn't thought of before.

Yeah.

I think that's awesome.

yeah well how wonderful to make somebody feel included in this thing obviously but like yeah i don't think i think that's a i think that's a a tool that i could sharpen of like is this including somebody this happens when things feel serious to me and um i don't want to yeah whatever um

I don't have more to say on that.

I just think it's a, it's a, I love the way that you articulated the thing that I was already doing, but here's maybe why this works versus, Hey, I'm doing this now.

Like me not messaging that.

How do I know when to tell the person the thing I'm feeling?

Sometimes you tell this person that's kind of, you know, I do think if I messaged that to her before we ever met, it wouldn't benefit either of us.

Because it could benefit either of us.

But there's a better chance of doing it in person, eye to eye, where they could hear my tone instead of assume it.

Like, wait a second.

But I felt like a liar by not sending it.

I'm not okay with this.

I'm not okay with moving it to 9 or 9.30 or 10.

I could be if she knew who I felt.

But like, swallow it.

now.

And I do think like, I didn't know why, even though I agree that I do think by telling her that I'm not including her and how I'm feeling, I'm telling her how I'm feeling.

And I do think there's a significant difference, whether it's literally saying you could come with me to Dwayne Wade or like saying, Hey, I want to tell you even just a whispering.