Rick Glassman

Like saying, just acknowledging, acknowledging.

You're right.

That's a funny way of looking at it.

By doing it like this, it's almost as if I'm telling you what I'm thinking, but I'm also including you in my thought.

That's such an interesting way of looking at it.

Of like-

Maybe I'm saying something that I feel is valuable information, the rules to a game, but I'm doing it for me and not necessarily including the other person.

And maybe that's like what you're saying of like, oh, it messes up the momentum or changes things because... Anyway, it's just an interesting perspective that I hadn't thought of before.

Yeah.

I think that's awesome.

yeah well how wonderful to make somebody feel included in this thing obviously but like yeah i don't think i think that's a i think that's a a tool that i could sharpen of like is this including somebody this happens when things feel serious to me and um i don't want to yeah whatever um

I don't have more to say on that.

I just think it's a, it's a, I love the way that you articulated the thing that I was already doing, but here's maybe why this works versus, Hey, I'm doing this now.

Like me not messaging that.

How do I know when to tell the person the thing I'm feeling?

Sometimes you tell this person that's kind of, you know, I do think if I messaged that to her before we ever met, it wouldn't benefit either of us.

Because it could benefit either of us.

But there's a better chance of doing it in person, eye to eye, where they could hear my tone instead of assume it.

Like, wait a second.

But I felt like a liar by not sending it.