Rima Grace

on a Thursday.

But surprisingly, everyone I approached was down to talk about this, and they had some pretty strong opinions.

Do you think it's ever okay to keep a financial secret from a partner?

No, I don't.

Have you ever kept a financial secret from a partner?

Yeah, sometimes I've done things like that without asking.

And then did you tell her eventually?

If your partner secretly spent like $500 on something and you found out, how would you react?

Could you finish this sentence?

Those are people I chatted with in Portland, Oregon.

But also let me know how you would answer these questions.

You can always call our hotline and leave a message.

347-RING-TIU.

Listening back to all of these answers, I noticed that, kind of consistently, people contradicted themselves.

Like, they'd say, yeah, duh, you want total financial honesty in a relationship, as if I were an idiot for even asking the question.

And then almost in the same breath, they'd make some qualification or confess to hiding a purchase themselves.

And I get it.

It's a big question with answers that sound a lot like, I don't know, well, it depends.

Like most people told me that if you're just dating, then no, you don't have to tell your partner how much debt you have or justify why you spent $200 on a new gadget.

But when you're till death do us part kind of serious, then those little white lies can feel less harmless and more like a referendum on the whole relationship.