Rob Dial

Does confidence come before achieving?

I want you to understand, you weren't born with confidence.

Confidence is something that is earned through the actions that you take throughout your life.

And that's why I actually believe that confidence should be called a skill set.

It is a skill set.

It is not a part of your personality that you were just born with at birth.

And one of the things that I've really come to realize

is that if you see a confident person, if you're looking at a confident person, you can usually tell by looking at that person in the way that they walk, in the way they talk, the way they hold themselves, the way they walk into a room, there's something a little bit different.

You're looking at someone who has taken the action that they need to and has gotten some form of results in something.

But what you don't see when you see a confident person is the hundreds and hundreds of small private moments where they were scared, where they were filled with fear, where they procrastinated because they were so afraid, when they finally took action and they ended up failing, when they were sitting there doubting themselves, not thinking that they're good enough.

because confidence is not this flashy thing.

That might be someone who's cocky, they're very flashy.

Confidence though is this skillset, it's cumulative, it's something that grows over time.

I can say for myself, I was not confident in my skillset, my abilities at all when I was younger.

And the more that I pushed myself out of my comfort zone, I started doing these things that I'm gonna cover today, the more it just kind of grew.

And then one day you look back and you're like, wow, I'm not that shy, timid, unconfident person anymore.

And so let's dive into it.

The first thing that you need to do if you want to be more confident is to take action.

You don't need to be confident to take action.

You need to take action to give yourself a chance to grow more confident.