Robin Fivush

And so my memories from that period are very fragmentary and really not very coherent in the way, and frankly, my family was.

Their way of dealing with it was just never to talk about it.

I think that is part of it, and I want to come back to that.

I think for my family, that was definitely part of it.

The other part of it was just, frankly, my grandmother's personality.

So she went through a lot of hard times, and her way of dealing with all of it was, we just don't revisit that.

We just don't go back there.

It's not worth revisiting.

Quite frankly, when I would ask her questions about her past, my past, my family's past, the answer was always, why do you need to know that?

It's over.

It's past.

I didn't really notice it until... I didn't notice it until I met my first husband's family.

And I started to spend a lot of time with them.

And they were a huge family, a family storytelling family.

They told stories...

like many, many families, all the time.

But they had all the kinds of family stories.

They had the everyday, tell me about your day-to-day, what happened, sharing their home.

Remember, this is like when we went to the beach last summer.

And they had the big, iconic stories.