Rosabelle

Yeah.

Okay.

So I was studying attachment style.

Do you both know about attachment style?

Yeah.

So I was studying attachment style and the way that it impacts on couples' ability to navigate conflict.

But the way that I was studying that is that we built this fake living room inside the psychology lab and couples would come into the lab and I wouldn't be in there.

I would be in this little control room because there'd be all these little cameras pointing

around the room and some microphones and the lights and one of the things that they would have to do is they would both fill out like this quite long questionnaire and then they would identify the top three things they wanted to change about their partner and rank them from the most deal-breaking thing to the third most deal-breaking thing which is quite an intense thing to do

Yeah, but you had to have been together for at least a year.

So I guess the idea was that you'd already had this conversation before.

And then they each had seven minutes to talk about the number one thing they wanted to change about the other person.

And I would just watch in my little control room.

Yeah.

I mean, the whole thing, I guess, is that there are a lot of dysfunctional couples or deeply unhappy couples who stay together for

because they both think that is what a relationship is meant to feel like.

And you want to change that about them?

I want to change it.

No, that makes it sound like I'm just telling on you all the time.

Yes.