Roxi Nafousi
Appearances
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
Well, firstly, now in reflection, I was manifesting, but the wrong direction. So I was actually attracting, I think, a lot of negativity to me. And I was constantly thinking, you know, I wasn't making any money. Like I had no career. I was trying, but at the last moment they'd pull out or they wouldn't want to work with me.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
And I was for sure manifesting that because I was kept saying to myself, I know it's not going to work. I know this person's going to cancel. I spent so much time on my own. I was so lonely. I truly know the meaning of loneliness at its deepest level.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
But when I decided and I discovered manifesting, and like you say, I realized that it was so closely linked to self-worth, how I started was to start my healing journey. And the first kind of technique I used was to fall asleep to affirmation playlists because I realized that your subconscious was susceptible as you're falling asleep. But then that was an ongoing journey.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
And by the way, I'm still on it.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
I'm still on that self-worth journey. We spoke before, there are still things that are definitely kind of my blocks, but I'm I don't know if you had this, because I said before, I wish I was interviewing you.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
When I first heard about kind of self-development and I would listen to speakers and people would say, oh, it's a lifelong journey of healing. I was like, what do you mean it's a lifelong journey? That sounds hideous. What's the point? I was in this like...
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
self-development honeymoon so at the beginning you know when you find healing and i've been in this real dark place and then i start to see changes i start to see the light i thought well this is it i'm healed i'm never gonna feel bad again like this is great and it's exactly like being in a relationship when you start and you're like i'm never gonna argue with this person we're gonna be together forever and then you know time goes on and you realize that's not the case
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
And now what I realize is that, yes, it is a lifelong journey, but with every single kind of layer you peel off, you open up this huge potential for growth and abundance and opportunity, and you're constantly up leveling. So even when you take a step back, you're still never going back as far as you went. And that for me is really reassuring. And I hope for anyone listening who's also thinking,
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
what do you mean this is an ongoing journey? It's ongoing, but in the best possible way.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
So I think like really simple examples are if you wake up on the wrong side of the bed, you wake up in a really bad mood and then you miss your train and your meeting gets canceled and you stub your toe or whatever it is. We've all had those experiences in those days where we kind of just operating at this low vibe, we're in a bad mood and then that's what's happening.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
But there's also, I think, a deeper level where so much is self-fulfilling prophecies. So if we are constantly operating from this belief system that we aren't worthy, that we aren't enough, that we can't receive abundance, then we're going to... change the way that we interpret and the meaning we attach to everything we experience.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
So we might have a conversation with someone which is in perspective, someone else's perspective is just like really normal conversation.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
But to that person who's got that low self-worth and believes everybody's against them, they might take that conversation totally the wrong way and then sabotage the relationship and then go, see, I told you, I told you nobody's here for me or I told you I couldn't, you know, whatever it is.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
And so I think in that sense, we are absolutely manifesting negativity into our lives because of how we're perceiving the world through that lens of low self-worth or low self-esteem.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
I think, by the way, I'll start by saying that I think this conversation is so important. These conversations and this one especially, you know, I'm so fortunate to have this platform to talk about this. And the reason it's so important to me is that because manifesting has become such a trend, I think it devalues it so much. And I'm so passionate about manifesting that I get almost a bit upset.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
I'm like, no, it's so incredible. It's such a full and fulfilling and meaningful practice. And within it, there is science and philosophy and wisdom. And I think it can get a bad rep, you know, from these like 30 second TikTok videos, which maybe just are giving so many misconceptions around it. But this really is like, it isn't woo, it isn't mystical.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
And actually my book in particular is for the skeptics. So like anyone who's a skeptic, I challenge them to pick up the book and not feel better about their lives afterwards. But how I came up with the seven steps is honestly a terrible story. I...
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
That's awesome. So when I had Wolf, I kind of really was like, I'm going to, who's my son? I thought I'm going to make this career for myself in being of service to others. I realized that that was my purpose. It's what I'm here to do. And so the first, I did a workshop. I used to watch like Brene Brown and I just love her. And I saw her Call to Courage on Netflix. I was like, I want to do that.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
I want to be on stage. I want to inspire people. So I thought I'm just going to host my first workshop. And it was a self-love workshop and a hundred people came. I couldn't believe it. Wow, that's amazing.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
I had a really small community on Instagram. It was like, I think like 20,000 followers. So it was good, but it was small. And I was really connected to them because I'm very open and vulnerable and they've kind of been on the journey with me. And so I said, look, I'm going to do this.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
And anyway, you know, I can't imagine, you know, what your first one was like, but I remember just my legs like jelly before I stepped on stage. But the moment I got on that stage, I was like, this is what I'm here to do. So I did that workshop. It went well. And so I was like, okay, I'm going to do another one. And so I said to my audience, I said, guys, I've been following manifestation.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
I've been learning about it. Do you think I should do this? And this was Jan 2020. And they were like, yeah. So I was like, now I have to do a workshop on manifestation. How am I going to explain this practice? There is so much to it. So I just thought, right, I'm going to put it in a step-by-step process.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
So I went on a walk and I got out the notes on my phone and within five minutes I had my seven steps to manifesting. And I think it came so instinctively to me, but I made this claim that I said, everything you need to know about manifestation is in these seven steps. And then I panicked. Because I was like, this is a big claim. And what if people realize that things are not in these seven steps?
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
And when I would listen to people talk, I was like on the edge of my seat thinking, I hope there's not something that's not in my seven steps. But I actually found that everything slotted in to one of these steps. And 100 people came to that workshop in Jan 2020. And then in the pandemic hit, I took them online. 700 people were then on a webinar in Jan 2021.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)
And by Jan 2022, it was a Sunday Times bestseller. So it was a really exciting journey. And I still stand by these seven steps. I live and breathe them. They are so practical, accessible, and easy for anyone to follow.