Roxie Nafousi

And the advice is so... And you've got, you know, the affirmations, you've got journaling prompts, like you're giving so many practical tips.

But I think this conversation is like really trying to figure out, like, what are we struggling with?

And I wanted to ask you, what's the...

How do we stop thinking that everything's our fault and still take responsibility to make changes?

Because I think where we get caught is we, when someone breaks up with you, you think I was all my fault.

If I did this, they would have stayed.

If I changed, they would still be here.

Oh, if I planned that birthday, they'd still be in my life.

And we make it all our fault, which isn't the case because it's always a two-way thing.

But sometimes if we don't think anything's our fault, then we don't take responsibility.

So how do you stop thinking everything's your fault, but still take responsibility?

So you've laid out these eight steps really simply for people to follow.

And as I was reading them, I was thinking, but that's not what we do to become more confident.

So I think a lot of people think when I become rich, I'll be confident.

But what's interesting is you can be rich and insecure.

People think when I become famous, I'll be confident, but you can be

famous, and insecure.

People think when I become a successful entrepreneur, when I get this promotion, when I get married, when I get through this, then I'll be confident.

But you can be all of those things and still insecure because those things don't take away insecurity.

These things do.