Roxie Nafousi

Like, is there a healthy pursuit of validation or is validation all bad?

Yeah.

And I think you're so right that that

that switch has gone from being, does my class think my trainers or my sneakers are cool to now everything's broadcast to the whole world and it's measured.

So you got 10 likes on a post and someone got 20 and someone got 20 million and someone got 20,000.

And so you're so right that now that validation has become

a matter of worth, net worth as well, and indicative of how much attention you get.

Whereas before you're in your classroom or even your tribe and you're like, yeah, if I've got 20 people that are generally okay with me, I'm fine.

Yeah, that's so good.

And you made me think about how we all post that caption of felt cute, might delete later.

And it's like that idea of like, I felt I looked cute.

So I posted this.

And now I'm going to see if everyone else felt I looked cute.

And if they don't, I might delete it later.

And that's that mindset that you're saying where it's like, oh no, but I thought I looked really good here.

Yeah.

And I wanted to share that.

And now you're so right.

Now you're making me feel like I don't look good in a picture I thought I looked good in, which makes me feel even worse.

What are some of the other ways?