Ryan Hanley

Do you need more time?

Can I get it?

And it's like overwhelming.

What mechanism or any advice that you have for people to actually hear the response from the person when they do slow down long enough to ask the important kind of give a shit questions?

Yeah, I read somewhere that – and I'm going to butcher this, and someone can fact-check me because I'm probably butchering it.

There is an anecdotal stat where if you use the Socratic method by, like, the third why, there's, like, a 99-point-something percent chance the person's no longer lying to you.

Like, if you ask why enough times, like, by the third why or whatever follow-up question, like you said, that's, like...

Like humans are unable, it's like an AI losing context of a conversation.

Like they can't continue to hide or bend the truth after the third why.

It like cracks them open and they just tell you what's really going on.

So when you think about that, like let's assume that's true or some version of that, two, four, five, whatever.

The point is asking somebody once a question and assuming you got the full answer, it's never gonna be the case or very rarely.

That's actually a super hack for your marriage slash relationship as well that I learned post-divorce.

But just asking questions, the other person just feels completely hurt, and you're like –

Which makes sense, right?

Like I love you ask me questions.

I love that.

I'm like, oh, Michelle cares about me.

Awesome.

You know, it doesn't even have to be a deep question.