Sabrina Zohar

And of course, this is open to anybody. None of this is genderized. It's just that I'm speaking in those norms. But when we really look at it, If we're actually like objectively removing ourselves from all of these aspects, it's like who I am doesn't need to be validated by other people if I know who I am.

And of course, this is open to anybody. None of this is genderized. It's just that I'm speaking in those norms. But when we really look at it, If we're actually like objectively removing ourselves from all of these aspects, it's like who I am doesn't need to be validated by other people if I know who I am.

And of course, this is open to anybody. None of this is genderized. It's just that I'm speaking in those norms. But when we really look at it, If we're actually like objectively removing ourselves from all of these aspects, it's like who I am doesn't need to be validated by other people if I know who I am.

And so when we're constantly trying to show up, right, the cool guy or the cool girl, she doesn't have boundaries. She's not going to say no. Oh, my God, whatever you want. I'm just down to do whatever you want. You cancel plans on me last minute. It's cool. Whatever. Like, I'm not going to make a big deal because I'm not going to push you away by being too much.

And so when we're constantly trying to show up, right, the cool guy or the cool girl, she doesn't have boundaries. She's not going to say no. Oh, my God, whatever you want. I'm just down to do whatever you want. You cancel plans on me last minute. It's cool. Whatever. Like, I'm not going to make a big deal because I'm not going to push you away by being too much.

And so when we're constantly trying to show up, right, the cool guy or the cool girl, she doesn't have boundaries. She's not going to say no. Oh, my God, whatever you want. I'm just down to do whatever you want. You cancel plans on me last minute. It's cool. Whatever. Like, I'm not going to make a big deal because I'm not going to push you away by being too much.

And then the flip side, the nice guy. Sure, whatever you say, wherever you want to go, whatever you want to do. You want to walk all over me? No worries. The reason those people fail is because, again, it's one dimensional. It's really attractive to hear that doesn't work for me.

And then the flip side, the nice guy. Sure, whatever you say, wherever you want to go, whatever you want to do. You want to walk all over me? No worries. The reason those people fail is because, again, it's one dimensional. It's really attractive to hear that doesn't work for me.

And then the flip side, the nice guy. Sure, whatever you say, wherever you want to go, whatever you want to do. You want to walk all over me? No worries. The reason those people fail is because, again, it's one dimensional. It's really attractive to hear that doesn't work for me.

oh did you just say no to me oh you have boundaries oh hi hey i think you're really lovely but like especially let's talk about the texting thing for a second yeah because i know a lot of my dudes don't know how to navigate this and i know a lot of my girls are highly fucking anxious and don't know how to navigate this so allow me to kind of help if i can you don't have to do something that feels authentic you don't need to text a girl every morning good morning just to make sure that she's still gonna like you because what you're doing is you're on a dopamine loop

oh did you just say no to me oh you have boundaries oh hi hey i think you're really lovely but like especially let's talk about the texting thing for a second yeah because i know a lot of my dudes don't know how to navigate this and i know a lot of my girls are highly fucking anxious and don't know how to navigate this so allow me to kind of help if i can you don't have to do something that feels authentic you don't need to text a girl every morning good morning just to make sure that she's still gonna like you because what you're doing is you're on a dopamine loop

oh did you just say no to me oh you have boundaries oh hi hey i think you're really lovely but like especially let's talk about the texting thing for a second yeah because i know a lot of my dudes don't know how to navigate this and i know a lot of my girls are highly fucking anxious and don't know how to navigate this so allow me to kind of help if i can you don't have to do something that feels authentic you don't need to text a girl every morning good morning just to make sure that she's still gonna like you because what you're doing is you're on a dopamine loop

The biggest issue I see is this. There's no rules, right? Nobody knows what the fuck they're doing. Nobody knows who to listen to, what to do. And I see a lot of confusion because at the end of the day, you don't owe anybody a text before you've established a relationship. So if you're dating somebody, like when I first started dating my partner, I was highly anxious, right?

The biggest issue I see is this. There's no rules, right? Nobody knows what the fuck they're doing. Nobody knows who to listen to, what to do. And I see a lot of confusion because at the end of the day, you don't owe anybody a text before you've established a relationship. So if you're dating somebody, like when I first started dating my partner, I was highly anxious, right?

The biggest issue I see is this. There's no rules, right? Nobody knows what the fuck they're doing. Nobody knows who to listen to, what to do. And I see a lot of confusion because at the end of the day, you don't owe anybody a text before you've established a relationship. So if you're dating somebody, like when I first started dating my partner, I was highly anxious, right?

I still had my anxiety. I was working through it. I was so much more secure, but we weren't texting a ton. And I asked him and I said, hey, you know, after maybe like a month, I said, you know, I'd really love more texting in between our dates to feel more connected when I'm not with you. And he wrote the most. And this goes back to like not being the nice guy.

I still had my anxiety. I was working through it. I was so much more secure, but we weren't texting a ton. And I asked him and I said, hey, you know, after maybe like a month, I said, you know, I'd really love more texting in between our dates to feel more connected when I'm not with you. And he wrote the most. And this goes back to like not being the nice guy.

I still had my anxiety. I was working through it. I was so much more secure, but we weren't texting a ton. And I asked him and I said, hey, you know, after maybe like a month, I said, you know, I'd really love more texting in between our dates to feel more connected when I'm not with you. And he wrote the most. And this goes back to like not being the nice guy.

He wrote back a text with the most beautiful boundary saying, hey. Great to hear from you. I want to just be clear. This is not a sign of my disinterest. I work in tech and I stare at computers for nine hours a day.

He wrote back a text with the most beautiful boundary saying, hey. Great to hear from you. I want to just be clear. This is not a sign of my disinterest. I work in tech and I stare at computers for nine hours a day.