Sabrina Zohar

And it pretty much means that we are going to re-mimic the same dynamics that we had growing up in our adult relationships because a part of our brain and our psyche believes, if I can get this guy, then all of the pain goes away. See, if I can prove to them that I'm not too much, then I was wrong, my dad was wrong, everyone was wrong. But what ends up happening?

And it pretty much means that we are going to re-mimic the same dynamics that we had growing up in our adult relationships because a part of our brain and our psyche believes, if I can get this guy, then all of the pain goes away. See, if I can prove to them that I'm not too much, then I was wrong, my dad was wrong, everyone was wrong. But what ends up happening?

And it pretty much means that we are going to re-mimic the same dynamics that we had growing up in our adult relationships because a part of our brain and our psyche believes, if I can get this guy, then all of the pain goes away. See, if I can prove to them that I'm not too much, then I was wrong, my dad was wrong, everyone was wrong. But what ends up happening?

So I always dated emotionally unavailable men because it was, I'm always too much. I'm too needy. Well, that's because my father taught me that. My father was very unavailable. So I learned there's something wrong with me. I'm too much. So it's a term called repetition compulsion. It's a Freudian term.

it just reaffirms your core belief, right? Because that person's unavailable. That person's not healthy. They're toxic, right? They're familiar. And so what we have to look at is it's not conscious. This doesn't mean that you're doing this in your waking life walking around. But what we have to look at is and say, what feels familiar? Like, I'd be curious, Hala, if you

it just reaffirms your core belief, right? Because that person's unavailable. That person's not healthy. They're toxic, right? They're familiar. And so what we have to look at is it's not conscious. This doesn't mean that you're doing this in your waking life walking around. But what we have to look at is and say, what feels familiar? Like, I'd be curious, Hala, if you

it just reaffirms your core belief, right? Because that person's unavailable. That person's not healthy. They're toxic, right? They're familiar. And so what we have to look at is it's not conscious. This doesn't mean that you're doing this in your waking life walking around. But what we have to look at is and say, what feels familiar? Like, I'd be curious, Hala, if you

it just reaffirms your core belief, right? Because that person's unavailable. That person's not healthy. They're toxic, right? They're familiar. And so what we have to look at is it's not conscious. This doesn't mean that you're doing this in your waking life walking around. But what we have to look at is and say, what feels familiar? Like, I'd be curious, Hala, if you

it just reaffirms your core belief, right? Because that person's unavailable. That person's not healthy. They're toxic, right? They're familiar. And so what we have to look at is it's not conscious. This doesn't mean that you're doing this in your waking life walking around. But what we have to look at is and say, what feels familiar? Like, I'd be curious, Hala, if you

And it pretty much means that we are going to re-mimic the same dynamics that we had growing up in our adult relationships because a part of our brain and our psyche believes it's If I can get this guy, then all of the pain goes away. See, if I can prove to them that I'm not too much, then I was wrong. My dad was wrong. Everyone was wrong. But what ends up happening?

care, you know, if you want to be.

care, you know, if you want to be.

care, you know, if you want to be.

care, you know, if you want to be.

care, you know, if you want to be.

It just reaffirms your core belief, right? Because that person's unavailable. That person's not healthy. They're toxic, right? They're familiar. And so what we have to look at is it's not conscious. This doesn't... mean that you're doing this in your waking life walking around. But what we have to look at is and say, what feels familiar?

That's it. Exactly. And then we see that. And so what we hear there is, oh my God, I have so much compassion. I have so much empathy for that little holla that sees this as, oh my God, but I'm scared. That's dad. I don't want to lose this. And then what the work starts to lie in is to re-parent that version of No, you're allowed to say no. You're allowed to wear leggings.

That's it. Exactly. And then we see that. And so what we hear there is, oh my God, I have so much compassion. I have so much empathy for that little holla that sees this as, oh my God, but I'm scared. That's dad. I don't want to lose this. And then what the work starts to lie in is to re-parent that version of No, you're allowed to say no. You're allowed to wear leggings.

That's it. Exactly. And then we see that. And so what we hear there is, oh my God, I have so much compassion. I have so much empathy for that little holla that sees this as, oh my God, but I'm scared. That's dad. I don't want to lose this. And then what the work starts to lie in is to re-parent that version of No, you're allowed to say no. You're allowed to wear leggings.

That's it. Exactly. And then we see that. And so what we hear there is, oh my God, I have so much compassion. I have so much empathy for that little holla that sees this as, oh my God, but I'm scared. That's dad. I don't want to lose this. And then what the work starts to lie in is to re-parent that version of No, you're allowed to say no. You're allowed to wear leggings.