Sabrina Zohar

If you have, my favorite therapist, she's a marriage and family therapist, her name is Julie Menino, and her stuff is called The Secure Relationship. And We were talking and she said, the one thing to look out for outside of the communication is two participants, two people, I don't care who they are, in this relationship that say, no matter what, we will make it work. Right?

So negging is essentially putting you down. It's like a backhanded compliment. So they're putting you down to make you question yourself. Negging, for example, could be, oh, wow, yeah, you actually do look good in white. And you're like, Thank you, right?

So negging is essentially putting you down. It's like a backhanded compliment. So they're putting you down to make you question yourself. Negging, for example, could be, oh, wow, yeah, you actually do look good in white. And you're like, Thank you, right?

So negging is essentially putting you down. It's like a backhanded compliment. So they're putting you down to make you question yourself. Negging, for example, could be, oh, wow, yeah, you actually do look good in white. And you're like, Thank you, right?

So negging is essentially putting you down. It's like a backhanded compliment. So they're putting you down to make you question yourself. Negging, for example, could be, oh, wow, yeah, you actually do look good in white. And you're like, Thank you, right?

So negging is essentially putting you down. It's like a backhanded compliment. So they're putting you down to make you question yourself. Negging, for example, could be, oh, wow, yeah, you actually do look good in white. And you're like, Thank you, right?

Of course, within reason, obviously. But two people, if you have two people that are driven to become better versions of themselves, like when my partner and I have an issue, anytime there's an issue, the first thing I'll say is, hey, to avoid resentment, can I share something with you? He knows when I say that, that it's time. Okay, I'm listening. What's going on? And same with him.

It's like, it's a bit of a, and then it makes you feel a little insecure because you're like, oh, they're putting me down, but they're complimenting me. What that is, is it's giving the other person the control, right? Then they start to break you down as a person. Then you're like, oh, I want your validation. So do you not like white on me? Because you said, oh, wow, I actually look good in it.

It's like, it's a bit of a, and then it makes you feel a little insecure because you're like, oh, they're putting me down, but they're complimenting me. What that is, is it's giving the other person the control, right? Then they start to break you down as a person. Then you're like, oh, I want your validation. So do you not like white on me? Because you said, oh, wow, I actually look good in it.

It's like, it's a bit of a, and then it makes you feel a little insecure because you're like, oh, they're putting me down, but they're complimenting me. What that is, is it's giving the other person the control, right? Then they start to break you down as a person. Then you're like, oh, I want your validation. So do you not like white on me? Because you said, oh, wow, I actually look good in it.

It's like, it's a bit of a, and then it makes you feel a little insecure because you're like, oh, they're putting me down, but they're complimenting me. What that is, is it's giving the other person the control, right? Then they start to break you down as a person. Then you're like, oh, I want your validation. So do you not like white on me? Because you said, oh, wow, I actually look good in it.

It's like, it's a bit of a, and then it makes you feel a little insecure because you're like, oh, they're putting me down, but they're complimenting me. What that is, is it's giving the other person the control, right? Then they start to break you down as a person. Then you're like, oh, I want your validation. So do you not like white on me? Because you said, oh, wow, I actually look good in it.

That way, if I say something, he'll go, okay. Thank you for letting me know. I had no idea I impacted you on that. I'm going to talk to my therapist about steps that I can take so that I can make you feel more supported. That way I communicate and then I let my partner do what they need to do. But you know what the common denominator is?

Do I not normally? It starts to make you question your own reality and your own... Negging is very common in narcissists a lot, but it doesn't have to be somebody who is a narcissist. Talk about an overused term. Negging could be someone who's insecure, who thinks if I put her down and give her a backhanded compliment, she's going to want me even more. And it's just not fun. This is not good shit.

Do I not normally? It starts to make you question your own reality and your own... Negging is very common in narcissists a lot, but it doesn't have to be somebody who is a narcissist. Talk about an overused term. Negging could be someone who's insecure, who thinks if I put her down and give her a backhanded compliment, she's going to want me even more. And it's just not fun. This is not good shit.

Do I not normally? It starts to make you question your own reality and your own... Negging is very common in narcissists a lot, but it doesn't have to be somebody who is a narcissist. Talk about an overused term. Negging could be someone who's insecure, who thinks if I put her down and give her a backhanded compliment, she's going to want me even more. And it's just not fun. This is not good shit.

Do I not normally? It starts to make you question your own reality and your own... Negging is very common in narcissists a lot, but it doesn't have to be somebody who is a narcissist. Talk about an overused term. Negging could be someone who's insecure, who thinks if I put her down and give her a backhanded compliment, she's going to want me even more. And it's just not fun. This is not good shit.

Do I not normally? It starts to make you question your own reality and your own... Negging is very common in narcissists a lot, but it doesn't have to be somebody who is a narcissist. Talk about an overused term. Negging could be someone who's insecure, who thinks if I put her down and give her a backhanded compliment, she's going to want me even more. And it's just not fun. This is not good shit.

Both of us are committed to making this work within our power. I can't do the work for him and he can't do it for me. But as long as you're two people that have respect, that listen, that communicate, then The sky is the fucking limit. You will go through all the hard times as long as you remember that you're a team. Work through your triggers. Your partner's going to trigger you. That's okay.

Please don't neg people. But it's just a manipulation tactic so that you come out where somebody wants you even more.