Sally Hepworth

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And even myself, if I heard someone was divorced before it happened to me, I would have said, oh, that's a shame.

It certainly wasn't on par with, you know, other terrible things that happen to people like a disease, like a death.

And on top of all that, I mean, that is the big part.

And then on top of that, there's the life upheaval, you know, that there's...

worries about financial worries.

There's emotional concerns for the children.

There's, you know, I mean, that part is so hard that you're going through something so difficult and yet you have to do the best parenting of your life, you know, in order to hopefully get your children.

Yes, or showing it in different ways.

I mean, my daughter, my youngest was six at the time and so I saw her dealing with it in ways that were not, you know, she wasn't expressing it directly but she was having a lot of trouble with, you know, nightmares and, you know, just behavioural stuff.

Whereas my older two, and my older two are neurodivergent and so that had its own host of things.

Did they process it differently?

Yep.

How could you, like in what way?

Well, even between the two of them, my son and my daughter, they processed it differently.

My son didn't talk about it at all.

In fact, it's funny, when we told him, we said, have you got any questions?

And we told him alone just because of the way that that happened.

We told the girls separately and we went through it and he said, have you got any questions?

And he said, where will the dog be living?