Sam

It's just, I just think that I'm, I don't, I don't know.

It's like, maybe all the jokes is like, it's just, I'm sensing a common theme where I'm just constantly saying something dumb or I'm maybe not understanding something that they are.

And,

I'm sure if I told them this, they would all be like, oh, my bad, dude.

We had no idea.

I don't know if I want to do that.

I don't want to change the dynamic because I want to be able to give it and take it.

You know what I mean?

Yeah, no, that's very fair.

Would you say, and this could be the OCD voice talking, but would you say that there's merit in me

I feel like I've been overthinking a lot of my conversations now with my friends because I don't want to say stuff to them that is hurtful.

Whether it was before, I would be like, bro, you are actually the dumbest man I've ever met, and we would laugh.

But now it's like I don't want to say something like that because I don't want them to take it.

I don't know.

Where do I draw that line?

I am Sam and I'm 31 years old. How can I help Sam? I want to know if depression can be a non-negotiable. What do you mean by that?

So I think what I need the most help with right now is I'm struggling to, I guess, accept the depression of my partner. We've been together for a couple of years and sometimes he has his ups and downs. Sometimes it gets really bad where he will sleep all day and it can go from like a few days to like maybe a whole month of like low energy. And I'm a very active person. So sometimes that it doesn't.

I go to my own therapy and I understand also that it's not a thing that I need to fix or I need to save him or anything like that. I guess I just need help with accepting the fact he's a great partner. And there was a time where I was like, am I going to have to break up with him because this is too much? And I feel like it kind of drains my energy as well. So I need help with knowing how I can do that.

Ja perhe ja kohtuulliset ystävät ovat sopineet siitä. Olen sopinut siitä itseäni noin 10-15 vuotta sitten. Ja luulen, että se on myös vaikuttanut minulle, koska minulla on ollut se kokemus. Esimerkiksi isäni, joka kävi todella huonoa depressiota, ja se oli todella vaikeaa nähdä häntä näin. Ja myös isäni, yksi minun parhaimmista ystävistäni yliopistossa.

Se, mitä minulle tuntuu, on vain niitä pieniä asioita. Siinä minulla on se, että minun täytyy valita huonoja asioita, koska joskus se on vain huonoja esityksiä, joissa se on niin huono päivä tai mitä tahansa, ja se on noin 8 aamua. Minä olen niin, että me olemme ok, ja kaikki tulee olemaan ok. Luulen, että vastataan kysymykseesi siitä, miten se on vaikuttanut meille. Se on esimerkki viime viikolla, joka