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Sara Jane Ho

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
588 total appearances

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Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

I have a question. I have my dad's ashes in my bedroom. No. And I was like, oh my God. I was like, can we turn the cameras on right now? I was like, oh my God, did you guys catch this?

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

Yeah, that's fun. By the way, I have about like 10 minutes left. Is that okay?

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

Yeah, that's fun. By the way, I have about like 10 minutes left. Is that okay?

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

Yeah, that's fun. By the way, I have about like 10 minutes left. Is that okay?

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

I like to think of dialogue as traffic lights. So if you're speaking, if you stay within 20 seconds, green light, you're in the clear. If you're approaching 40 seconds, orange light, like you're edging on boring. And if you've gone over 40 seconds, red light, you're officially self-obsessed. I love that. The only issue I have is what if you're telling a story? Oh, that's different.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

I like to think of dialogue as traffic lights. So if you're speaking, if you stay within 20 seconds, green light, you're in the clear. If you're approaching 40 seconds, orange light, like you're edging on boring. And if you've gone over 40 seconds, red light, you're officially self-obsessed. I love that. The only issue I have is what if you're telling a story? Oh, that's different.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

I like to think of dialogue as traffic lights. So if you're speaking, if you stay within 20 seconds, green light, you're in the clear. If you're approaching 40 seconds, orange light, like you're edging on boring. And if you've gone over 40 seconds, red light, you're officially self-obsessed. I love that. The only issue I have is what if you're telling a story? Oh, that's different.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

That's different. I'm talking about like a conversation.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

That's different. I'm talking about like a conversation.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

That's different. I'm talking about like a conversation.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

Yeah. Well, if somebody's asking you a question which requires a lengthy answer, then you just have to be the judge of that, right? You have to be the judge of that. And also, usually, that's why I think it's important to get out there and go to as many social functions as possible and to meet different people.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

Yeah. Well, if somebody's asking you a question which requires a lengthy answer, then you just have to be the judge of that, right? You have to be the judge of that. And also, usually, that's why I think it's important to get out there and go to as many social functions as possible and to meet different people.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

Yeah. Well, if somebody's asking you a question which requires a lengthy answer, then you just have to be the judge of that, right? You have to be the judge of that. And also, usually, that's why I think it's important to get out there and go to as many social functions as possible and to meet different people.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

It's less about counting the seconds and more about like, okay, like I know I should be mindful. And for me, if I'm ever on the receiving end of somebody who just keeps droning on, on, on, what I like to do is I'm already thinking, because I have a short attention span and I'm already thinking like, how do I get out of here?

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

It's less about counting the seconds and more about like, okay, like I know I should be mindful. And for me, if I'm ever on the receiving end of somebody who just keeps droning on, on, on, what I like to do is I'm already thinking, because I have a short attention span and I'm already thinking like, how do I get out of here?

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

It's less about counting the seconds and more about like, okay, like I know I should be mindful. And for me, if I'm ever on the receiving end of somebody who just keeps droning on, on, on, what I like to do is I'm already thinking, because I have a short attention span and I'm already thinking like, how do I get out of here?

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

And if there's other people nearby, I'll just introduce them to somebody else, which, yeah, some people would be like, that is so immoral of you to push this person onto another person. But it's like, I'm not claiming to be Miss Goody Two Shoes. Right. And so I'm not teaching morals. I'm Miss Manners with a touch of Machiavelli. Yeah.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

And if there's other people nearby, I'll just introduce them to somebody else, which, yeah, some people would be like, that is so immoral of you to push this person onto another person. But it's like, I'm not claiming to be Miss Goody Two Shoes. Right. And so I'm not teaching morals. I'm Miss Manners with a touch of Machiavelli. Yeah.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

And if there's other people nearby, I'll just introduce them to somebody else, which, yeah, some people would be like, that is so immoral of you to push this person onto another person. But it's like, I'm not claiming to be Miss Goody Two Shoes. Right. And so I'm not teaching morals. I'm Miss Manners with a touch of Machiavelli. Yeah.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

Ideally by end of day, but longest 24 hours. Work-wise? Oh, work-wise, work-wise. Actually, there's data that suggests people expect a response within an hour, but at minimum end of day.