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Sara Jane Ho

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
588 total appearances

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Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

And then in the 2000s, a couple of started springing up. Now, every Michelin chef is going to China.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

And then in the 2000s, a couple of started springing up. Now, every Michelin chef is going to China.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

Well, we need to dial it back to first impressions. And first impressions, some research says two minutes, some research says not even a second, right? So somebody's forming a first impression of you within a second of seeing you. So that's before you even speak, before you say anything. And usually, I mean, we want to make good first impressions. That's why it's so important.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

Well, we need to dial it back to first impressions. And first impressions, some research says two minutes, some research says not even a second, right? So somebody's forming a first impression of you within a second of seeing you. So that's before you even speak, before you say anything. And usually, I mean, we want to make good first impressions. That's why it's so important.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

Well, we need to dial it back to first impressions. And first impressions, some research says two minutes, some research says not even a second, right? So somebody's forming a first impression of you within a second of seeing you. So that's before you even speak, before you say anything. And usually, I mean, we want to make good first impressions. That's why it's so important.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

And whenever we make a negative, let's say if we have if somebody forms a negative impression of us, then it takes it's varying. So some people have said it takes a certain number of hours. But generally speaking, everybody points to some Harvard research study that, you know, that doesn't really exist. I haven't been able to find it.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

And whenever we make a negative, let's say if we have if somebody forms a negative impression of us, then it takes it's varying. So some people have said it takes a certain number of hours. But generally speaking, everybody points to some Harvard research study that, you know, that doesn't really exist. I haven't been able to find it.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

And whenever we make a negative, let's say if we have if somebody forms a negative impression of us, then it takes it's varying. So some people have said it takes a certain number of hours. But generally speaking, everybody points to some Harvard research study that, you know, that doesn't really exist. I haven't been able to find it.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

But generally speaking, they say it takes eight positive encounters to change a mind of somebody's negative impression of you. So if you know that, then it's much better to make a good first impression rather than to make a bad impression and then have to work really hard to turn that around.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

But generally speaking, they say it takes eight positive encounters to change a mind of somebody's negative impression of you. So if you know that, then it's much better to make a good first impression rather than to make a bad impression and then have to work really hard to turn that around.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

But generally speaking, they say it takes eight positive encounters to change a mind of somebody's negative impression of you. So if you know that, then it's much better to make a good first impression rather than to make a bad impression and then have to work really hard to turn that around.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

Yeah. And it's funny. I mean, you could have been doing, you could have been performing consistently well at work, for example. And if you screw up, you know, the most recent project, then that's the recency effect, right? In people's minds, okay, well, but she screwed up the last project. Right.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

Yeah. And it's funny. I mean, you could have been doing, you could have been performing consistently well at work, for example. And if you screw up, you know, the most recent project, then that's the recency effect, right? In people's minds, okay, well, but she screwed up the last project. Right.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

Yeah. And it's funny. I mean, you could have been doing, you could have been performing consistently well at work, for example. And if you screw up, you know, the most recent project, then that's the recency effect, right? In people's minds, okay, well, but she screwed up the last project. Right.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

So the way to work around that is to then actively make good on a lot of projects in order to move the bad project further down the line.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

So the way to work around that is to then actively make good on a lot of projects in order to move the bad project further down the line.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

So the way to work around that is to then actively make good on a lot of projects in order to move the bad project further down the line.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

We grapple with the digital world. And that's why at the end of every chapter, whether it's my social chapter, work, career, love and relationships, food and dining, at the end, there's always a subchapter. So I end every chapter with a subchapter that talks about the digital etiquette for these things. And I think that, you know, my Netflix show, Mind Your Manners, was delayed because of COVID.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

We grapple with the digital world. And that's why at the end of every chapter, whether it's my social chapter, work, career, love and relationships, food and dining, at the end, there's always a subchapter. So I end every chapter with a subchapter that talks about the digital etiquette for these things. And I think that, you know, my Netflix show, Mind Your Manners, was delayed because of COVID.

Habits and Hustle
Episode 409: Sarah Jane Ho: Mastering Etiquette for Dating and the 20-40-2 Rule for Better Conversations

We grapple with the digital world. And that's why at the end of every chapter, whether it's my social chapter, work, career, love and relationships, food and dining, at the end, there's always a subchapter. So I end every chapter with a subchapter that talks about the digital etiquette for these things. And I think that, you know, my Netflix show, Mind Your Manners, was delayed because of COVID.