Sarah Jaffe

All of these things happen.

And we just have no place for it, for the most part, in sort of late capitalist society, right?

We just sort of are supposed to get back to work.

I joked about wanting to get an A in grieving, but it's really true.

I was like, I'm going to be good at this.

I'm going to go to therapy.

I'm going to do the thing.

I'm going to get over it in record time, and I'm going to be good at grieving.

And like, oh, no, that's not how that works.

That is so not how that works.

In fact, the more you try to do that, the more you're going to screw yourself up, I think.

I certainly did anyway.

To be willing to allow it to happen on the clock that it happens at,

You know, it was easier for me in a way because I work from home.

You know, I'm freelance.

I had plenty of work I had to do, but I could kind of do it on my own time.

So if in the middle of the day I needed to take a break and just cry for an hour, I could go do that.

And that sense, you know, of like some degree of freedom that I had.

Which most people don't have, right?

If you're going to work at the GM factory and you got to, you know, do the same thing all day long and you're, you know, lifting up the thing and drilling a hole or putting a screw in or attaching a door or attaching a steering wheel or any number of things you might be doing on an assembly line.