Sarah Jaffe

You know, some people would be like kind of gallows humor about it and say, welcome to the dead dad's club.

But it was people who had already been there.

And so sort of by definition, they didn't need me to do it back.

So the only way that I could reciprocate was to reciprocate to other people.

So that when I had friends in the months, weeks, years after my father died who lost somebody, I'm really annoying with this with people in my life, actually.

I'm like, you know, not to be relentlessly on brand, but you're grieving, honey.

And not just deaths, but also you lost a job.

Also, you moved across an ocean.

Also, you had a really bad breakup.

You got divorced.

I will be that person who's just like, it's grief.

And here's what you will probably need at some point.

And, you know, what can I do?

But also asking what I can do is kind of not helpful because you probably don't know what I can do.

So I'm going to offer I'm going to make you breakfast.

I'm going to make you cookies.

I'm going to come over and drag you out of the house and make you go for a walk.

You know, I'm just going to text and be like, here's a very silly meme that made me laugh.

Here is a picture of a cute dog.

I would not have gotten through the last six, seven years without the people who love me.