Sarah Jakes Roberts

You know when they were trying.

They were trying.

And I think that a lot of times we end up with parent wounds because it feels like you didn't really try.

Even when your best wasn't enough, we can at least reconcile the fact that, hey, at least you gave it your best shot.

It's the not trying at all that I think leaves us the most wounded.

Like you could have at least tried.

Facts.

Facts.

You know, the way I try to parent and the way I was parented, they don't go together.

Oh, good.

Because that was my next question.

Let's talk about that.

And the problem is that I was formed in a form of parenting that is so counter to the way that I want to parent that I have to remind myself when parenting my children to not turn into my parents when parenting them.

Because my parents, they didn't really care about your feelings.

You know, they care that you did what I told you to do.

And I find myself when my children think I care about their feelings.

And I led them to believe that I cared about their feelings.

But Emma, sometimes I don't care.

And that's the problem is they think I care when I don't.

And so I'm having to create space for their feelings while also creating space for my own in this dynamic.