Sarah Jakes Roberts

And so I missed out on the opportunity to like really have meaningful feedback that can make me better.

And so when I learned to like at least take his feedback, even if I took it with my eyes rolled and then like, you don't know what you're talking about.

I'd like take it into my closet and be like, well, let me look at it and see what he said.

And I would see opportunities for me to grow and opportunities for me to change.

And I learned to come to a space where I realized we really are on the same team.

Now, his delivery may be different from mine.

His perspective may be different.

We may have to learn how to communicate things.

But I know that he's for me.

And knowing that he is for me has been one of the greatest gifts that I think that I have been able to offer to our marriage because it has changed the way that we communicate.

But it is hard to be in partnership after you've been wounded and hurt.

And to allow someone into the most intimate parts of your life is challenging.

But

when you really trust that that person is there to make your life flourish and they have evidence of it, right?

Because we're not just talking about words.

I looked at the way that his evidence showed up.

We were just dating.

He lived in California.

I lived in Dallas.

It was my daughter's first day of school.