Scott Barry Kaufman

So when a lot of people think about becoming a victim, in general, they think about all the ways they're a victim to the external world. And the twist in my book is that part one are five ways that we're actually a victim to ourselves. It has nothing to do with the outside world. We can become a victim to our emotions when we take our emotions as facts.

So when a lot of people think about becoming a victim, in general, they think about all the ways they're a victim to the external world. And the twist in my book is that part one are five ways that we're actually a victim to ourselves. It has nothing to do with the outside world. We can become a victim to our emotions when we take our emotions as facts.

So when a lot of people think about becoming a victim, in general, they think about all the ways they're a victim to the external world. And the twist in my book is that part one are five ways that we're actually a victim to ourselves. It has nothing to do with the outside world. We can become a victim to our emotions when we take our emotions as facts.

We don't just treat them as signposts, but we take them seriously, so seriously that we act immediately on whatever we're feeling. And we are quick to label, to find a label for whatever it is that we're feeling, as opposed to just checking in on the experience itself. So that's a big way that we become victim to our emotions.

We don't just treat them as signposts, but we take them seriously, so seriously that we act immediately on whatever we're feeling. And we are quick to label, to find a label for whatever it is that we're feeling, as opposed to just checking in on the experience itself. So that's a big way that we become victim to our emotions.

We don't just treat them as signposts, but we take them seriously, so seriously that we act immediately on whatever we're feeling. And we are quick to label, to find a label for whatever it is that we're feeling, as opposed to just checking in on the experience itself. So that's a big way that we become victim to our emotions.

Anxiety is a big one. Um, fear, fear is a huge one. Fear holds us back from so many things in our life. And that's why in that chapter, I talked about the act approach, which I'm a big fan of. Um, Steven, have you had Steven Hayes on your podcast ever?

Anxiety is a big one. Um, fear, fear is a huge one. Fear holds us back from so many things in our life. And that's why in that chapter, I talked about the act approach, which I'm a big fan of. Um, Steven, have you had Steven Hayes on your podcast ever?

Anxiety is a big one. Um, fear, fear is a huge one. Fear holds us back from so many things in our life. And that's why in that chapter, I talked about the act approach, which I'm a big fan of. Um, Steven, have you had Steven Hayes on your podcast ever?

He's the founder of the ACT approach to psychotherapy, which is a really brilliant form of psychotherapy that allows you to act in line with your values, no matter how you're feeling about the situation in the moment. Maybe you don't feel like it. Maybe you wake up like, I want to lose weight, but I don't feel like going to the gym today.

He's the founder of the ACT approach to psychotherapy, which is a really brilliant form of psychotherapy that allows you to act in line with your values, no matter how you're feeling about the situation in the moment. Maybe you don't feel like it. Maybe you wake up like, I want to lose weight, but I don't feel like going to the gym today.

He's the founder of the ACT approach to psychotherapy, which is a really brilliant form of psychotherapy that allows you to act in line with your values, no matter how you're feeling about the situation in the moment. Maybe you don't feel like it. Maybe you wake up like, I want to lose weight, but I don't feel like going to the gym today.

And you really are able to regulate your emotions in a way where you still...

And you really are able to regulate your emotions in a way where you still...

And you really are able to regulate your emotions in a way where you still...

end up in the gym you know really thinking more about what you want to get out in the long term as opposed to what may be holding you back in the short term so i think the act approach is a really uh a really great way forward right okay i just started the act journal it's the guys from uh is it psychologists off the clock Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

end up in the gym you know really thinking more about what you want to get out in the long term as opposed to what may be holding you back in the short term so i think the act approach is a really uh a really great way forward right okay i just started the act journal it's the guys from uh is it psychologists off the clock Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

end up in the gym you know really thinking more about what you want to get out in the long term as opposed to what may be holding you back in the short term so i think the act approach is a really uh a really great way forward right okay i just started the act journal it's the guys from uh is it psychologists off the clock Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

You do follow the main psychology podcast. I wrote this one.

You do follow the main psychology podcast. I wrote this one.