Scott Barry Kaufman

Yeah. Being a highly sensitive person, you know, it's like anything else, any other aspect of your identity. Are you going to make it the core of your victim identity or are you going to harness it in the service of growth and becoming a better person? And I think you can ask that about any aspect of your personality.

No matter what it is, your extroversion, your introversion, your conscientiousness, you know, all these things can have trade-offs. People who are too conscientious, like too gritty, there's a dark side to grit, right?

No matter what it is, your extroversion, your introversion, your conscientiousness, you know, all these things can have trade-offs. People who are too conscientious, like too gritty, there's a dark side to grit, right?

No matter what it is, your extroversion, your introversion, your conscientiousness, you know, all these things can have trade-offs. People who are too conscientious, like too gritty, there's a dark side to grit, right?

You know, if like, if you're a workaholic, if you're, you know, that could be part of your victim identity is that you're too, you work too hard, you know, you could make anything work.

You know, if like, if you're a workaholic, if you're, you know, that could be part of your victim identity is that you're too, you work too hard, you know, you could make anything work.

You know, if like, if you're a workaholic, if you're, you know, that could be part of your victim identity is that you're too, you work too hard, you know, you could make anything work.

you know the core of your victim identity and i don't want people to make anything the core of their victim identity i want them to not see themselves as that's that's the thing that's holding them back from the rest of their personality structure but as the thing that enables the rest of their personality structure okay how do people become victims of their emotions Yeah. Yeah.

you know the core of your victim identity and i don't want people to make anything the core of their victim identity i want them to not see themselves as that's that's the thing that's holding them back from the rest of their personality structure but as the thing that enables the rest of their personality structure okay how do people become victims of their emotions Yeah. Yeah.

you know the core of your victim identity and i don't want people to make anything the core of their victim identity i want them to not see themselves as that's that's the thing that's holding them back from the rest of their personality structure but as the thing that enables the rest of their personality structure okay how do people become victims of their emotions Yeah. Yeah.

So when a lot of people think about becoming a victim, in general, they think about all the ways they're a victim to the external world. And the twist in my book is that part one are five ways that we're actually a victim to ourselves. It has nothing to do with the outside world. We can become a victim to our emotions when we take our emotions as facts.

So when a lot of people think about becoming a victim, in general, they think about all the ways they're a victim to the external world. And the twist in my book is that part one are five ways that we're actually a victim to ourselves. It has nothing to do with the outside world. We can become a victim to our emotions when we take our emotions as facts.

So when a lot of people think about becoming a victim, in general, they think about all the ways they're a victim to the external world. And the twist in my book is that part one are five ways that we're actually a victim to ourselves. It has nothing to do with the outside world. We can become a victim to our emotions when we take our emotions as facts.

We don't just treat them as signposts, but we take them seriously, so seriously that we act immediately on whatever we're feeling. And we are quick to label, to find a label for whatever it is that we're feeling, as opposed to just checking in on the experience itself. So that's a big way that we become victim to our emotions.

We don't just treat them as signposts, but we take them seriously, so seriously that we act immediately on whatever we're feeling. And we are quick to label, to find a label for whatever it is that we're feeling, as opposed to just checking in on the experience itself. So that's a big way that we become victim to our emotions.

We don't just treat them as signposts, but we take them seriously, so seriously that we act immediately on whatever we're feeling. And we are quick to label, to find a label for whatever it is that we're feeling, as opposed to just checking in on the experience itself. So that's a big way that we become victim to our emotions.

Anxiety is a big one. Um, fear, fear is a huge one. Fear holds us back from so many things in our life. And that's why in that chapter, I talked about the act approach, which I'm a big fan of. Um, Steven, have you had Steven Hayes on your podcast ever?

Anxiety is a big one. Um, fear, fear is a huge one. Fear holds us back from so many things in our life. And that's why in that chapter, I talked about the act approach, which I'm a big fan of. Um, Steven, have you had Steven Hayes on your podcast ever?

Anxiety is a big one. Um, fear, fear is a huge one. Fear holds us back from so many things in our life. And that's why in that chapter, I talked about the act approach, which I'm a big fan of. Um, Steven, have you had Steven Hayes on your podcast ever?

He's the founder of the ACT approach to psychotherapy, which is a really brilliant form of psychotherapy that allows you to act in line with your values, no matter how you're feeling about the situation in the moment. Maybe you don't feel like it. Maybe you wake up like, I want to lose weight, but I don't feel like going to the gym today.