Scott Shigeoka

But then all of a sudden, the conversation quickly turns, and there's almost like a gotcha moment. And they say something like, I knew you were going to say that, or that's totally wrong. You're wrong with the facts. You walked right into my trap. That's not actual curiosity, even though it looks like it. Predatory curiosity is when we have an agenda or some kind of ulterior motives underneath

But then all of a sudden, the conversation quickly turns, and there's almost like a gotcha moment. And they say something like, I knew you were going to say that, or that's totally wrong. You're wrong with the facts. You walked right into my trap. That's not actual curiosity, even though it looks like it. Predatory curiosity is when we have an agenda or some kind of ulterior motives underneath

you know, our exploration or underneath the questions that we're asking. And in order for it to be true curiosity, it needs to be truly genuine. Truly, I do not know what I'm about to encounter in this conversation. You know, just like what you said, I said, hey, is there any anything that you're looking for from this conversation? And you answered in the most curious way.

you know, our exploration or underneath the questions that we're asking. And in order for it to be true curiosity, it needs to be truly genuine. Truly, I do not know what I'm about to encounter in this conversation. You know, just like what you said, I said, hey, is there any anything that you're looking for from this conversation? And you answered in the most curious way.

you know, our exploration or underneath the questions that we're asking. And in order for it to be true curiosity, it needs to be truly genuine. Truly, I do not know what I'm about to encounter in this conversation. You know, just like what you said, I said, hey, is there any anything that you're looking for from this conversation? And you answered in the most curious way.

You said, no, for the podcast, I'm just going to see where it ends up. I'm totally open to how we have this conversation together. And I think that's such a great example of true curiosity. So often, we are looking to take our conversations or to take our relationship to our particular destination. And there's many things that might be driving that, but that is not actually curiosity.

You said, no, for the podcast, I'm just going to see where it ends up. I'm totally open to how we have this conversation together. And I think that's such a great example of true curiosity. So often, we are looking to take our conversations or to take our relationship to our particular destination. And there's many things that might be driving that, but that is not actually curiosity.

You said, no, for the podcast, I'm just going to see where it ends up. I'm totally open to how we have this conversation together. And I think that's such a great example of true curiosity. So often, we are looking to take our conversations or to take our relationship to our particular destination. And there's many things that might be driving that, but that is not actually curiosity.

We have to be much more open to the unknown and to the uncertainty of what might unfold in this conversation or in this relationship for it to be that way.

We have to be much more open to the unknown and to the uncertainty of what might unfold in this conversation or in this relationship for it to be that way.

We have to be much more open to the unknown and to the uncertainty of what might unfold in this conversation or in this relationship for it to be that way.

Yeah, well, in my book, I talk about the dive model, which is to detach, intend, value, and embrace. And I can describe that in a little bit, but then I'll share some tangible practices that are helpful. So the D is detach, which means to let go of what I call our ABCs, our assumptions, biases, and certainty.

Yeah, well, in my book, I talk about the dive model, which is to detach, intend, value, and embrace. And I can describe that in a little bit, but then I'll share some tangible practices that are helpful. So the D is detach, which means to let go of what I call our ABCs, our assumptions, biases, and certainty.

Yeah, well, in my book, I talk about the dive model, which is to detach, intend, value, and embrace. And I can describe that in a little bit, but then I'll share some tangible practices that are helpful. So the D is detach, which means to let go of what I call our ABCs, our assumptions, biases, and certainty.

And what I mean by that is you can write down the assumptions that you have about another person. Just write them down. Before you meet them for family gathering or before you have a conversation with them in the workplace, wherever you're coming into a conversation with someone, write down your assumptions about them.

And what I mean by that is you can write down the assumptions that you have about another person. Just write them down. Before you meet them for family gathering or before you have a conversation with them in the workplace, wherever you're coming into a conversation with someone, write down your assumptions about them.

And what I mean by that is you can write down the assumptions that you have about another person. Just write them down. Before you meet them for family gathering or before you have a conversation with them in the workplace, wherever you're coming into a conversation with someone, write down your assumptions about them.

You might find that a lot of those are not backed by facts or things that they've told you, but they're just stories that you've really invented in your head. So that's an example of how we might detach and let go from our assumptions, biases, and certainty. There's I, which is intend, which is how do we set the mindset and the setting for curiosity?

You might find that a lot of those are not backed by facts or things that they've told you, but they're just stories that you've really invented in your head. So that's an example of how we might detach and let go from our assumptions, biases, and certainty. There's I, which is intend, which is how do we set the mindset and the setting for curiosity?

You might find that a lot of those are not backed by facts or things that they've told you, but they're just stories that you've really invented in your head. So that's an example of how we might detach and let go from our assumptions, biases, and certainty. There's I, which is intend, which is how do we set the mindset and the setting for curiosity?