Sean Pyles

Because to me, that sounds kind of like money hoarding where they've just been saving, saving, savings as kind of a defense mechanism.

Yes.

and not putting it to use as we would typically expect people to do.

So you want to know why they're doing that and then how they can maybe use this money to help them feel secure, which I assume is why they have all this cash in the first place.

OK, well, let's get to what the Internet strangers had to say about this one.

What you just mentioned gets me to thinking about goals.

That's something that's lacking from this conversation, too, is what the girlfriend actually wants to do with her money over the long term.

Maybe she loves just having a ton of cash around.

Yes, I would love to see that in a high savings account instead of just a standard account.

But maybe she has something that she's going to be putting this money toward like a home in the next year.

Maybe she wants to buy a car.

Just what does she actually want and how is her money helping her get there or not?

Let me mansplain your money to you.

Because there's this assumption underlying this post that she doesn't know what she's doing and she's not being savvy when that might be the opposite of what's going on.

He's just making these radical assumptions.

Okay, someone is checking the poster a little bit.

They said, I'd start by recognizing that she is your girlfriend, not your wife, and to tread carefully when trying to advise someone you're dating about how to handle their money.

You are not in control and you should not be trying to be in control.

Thank you, ExternalSelf1337.

Great advice.