Shade Zahrai

So I'm not going to look at him either.

Because if I'm waiting for connection and he's not giving it to me, I'm just going to look away and talk.

And that really helped.

The third thing was that he kept changing his mind and not realizing that he'd already told you one thing before and then changed it the next time.

So I would have notes that I'd write at the end of each meeting.

email them to him, say, this is my action based on what we discussed.

And then at the next meeting, I'd show him.

So if he said, why didn't you do X?

I'd say, well, if we have a look last week, you told me to do Y, which I did.

Would you like me to also do X?

And he was being almost put on notice that, hey, you kind of need to be a little bit more organized here.

But I also made it easier for him because he was able to remember, that's right, I did tell you to do that.

And that helped me.

So all of that to say that, yes, there are going to be people in our lives that we cannot necessarily cut out, find a way to work with them, anticipate that they're going to be a certain way.

Don't allow them to sap your level of confidence or conviction.

Oh, yeah.

No, completely.

And it's because energy is contagious.

So emotional contagious is really well documented in the literature.

In the kind of mid 2010s, they identified that there are certain regions in the brain, mirror neurons, which are essentially determining what other people are feeling at any given time.