Shadé Zahrai

Right.

In those early years.

Exactly.

So this is where we get into some really interesting research, because this was one of my questions too.

Are you just born with less self-doubt?

Are you just born into a family that instills you with less self-doubt?

What's really going on?

And it's a combination of things.

When we look at why certain people have self-doubt, yes, there are some personality components.

From a very early age, there's a personality trait called openness to experience.

And people or children who tend to be higher on openness to experience, they are more willing to go out and experience the world, to take the risks, to try new things.

Whereas other kids who might be much lower on that stay very close to mom and dad.

They constantly seek reassurance.

So there are these personality components early on.

But by the time we move into adulthood, we see that there's

Less variance from that perspective.

And what happens is, again, when we look at a lot of the literature, and I've spent the last five years studying what actually holds people back, why some people move forward, succeed and achieve, and then others are staying stuck, and what has been identified over the last 50 years, and my own studies have backed this up, there are really four attributes that determine whether someone experiences self-doubt or doesn't.

Okay, so the very first attribute is called acceptance.

Acceptance is this trust that you are worthy and enough.

You don't internalize failures.