Shane

Me and my girlfriend have been together for two years. I've always thought she was very sweet and kind and I really appreciate how much she loves me. And while she sometimes got a little jealous, I didn't think it was a big deal. Hell, maybe I even enjoyed being doted on like that. It made me feel really attractive, which I never really felt I was.

Recently we attended a work event organized by my company and we met one of my coworkers there. She works at a different branch and we hardly ever talk outside of work emails and calls, but we get along well enough. This event was my girlfriends first and only time meeting this coworker. On the way back from the event and the following day, my girlfriend was acting a little weird.

Recently we attended a work event organized by my company and we met one of my coworkers there. She works at a different branch and we hardly ever talk outside of work emails and calls, but we get along well enough. This event was my girlfriends first and only time meeting this coworker. On the way back from the event and the following day, my girlfriend was acting a little weird.

She kept asking me about a work wife and asking if I thought that coworker was pretty and other stuff about her. I knew my girlfriend could get kind of jealous and I did my best to calm her down. I approved and followed back. Her account is also private. That account was almost nothing but a few pictures of her in swimsuits uploaded very recently.

She kept asking me about a work wife and asking if I thought that coworker was pretty and other stuff about her. I knew my girlfriend could get kind of jealous and I did my best to calm her down. I approved and followed back. Her account is also private. That account was almost nothing but a few pictures of her in swimsuits uploaded very recently.

It didn't look like anything overtly sexy, just normal vacation pics. But there was nothing but vacation pics. It seemed weird, but I didn't really care. Then a few days later, she DMed me on IG. It was just small talk and I replied, but it wasn't flirty or anything, in my opinion. She kept reaching out every few days and eventually it did seem to get kind of flirty.

It didn't look like anything overtly sexy, just normal vacation pics. But there was nothing but vacation pics. It seemed weird, but I didn't really care. Then a few days later, she DMed me on IG. It was just small talk and I replied, but it wasn't flirty or anything, in my opinion. She kept reaching out every few days and eventually it did seem to get kind of flirty.

I told her this felt inappropriate and I was in a relationship and I'd appreciate if we kept things professional, which she seemed okay with. My girlfriend seemed extra affectionate the days after that. And while I didn't suspect anything at the time, you can all probably see exactly where this is going.

I told her this felt inappropriate and I was in a relationship and I'd appreciate if we kept things professional, which she seemed okay with. My girlfriend seemed extra affectionate the days after that. And while I didn't suspect anything at the time, you can all probably see exactly where this is going.

Still, at the time I was happy and my girlfriend even seemed to be better regarding her jealousy. But then last week I got a follow recommendation on my IG. It was my coworkers account. This one wasn't private and was just a normal IG account and looking through it, that was where those swimsuit pics came from. So it became clear I was being catfished.

Still, at the time I was happy and my girlfriend even seemed to be better regarding her jealousy. But then last week I got a follow recommendation on my IG. It was my coworkers account. This one wasn't private and was just a normal IG account and looking through it, that was where those swimsuit pics came from. So it became clear I was being catfished.

I confronted my girlfriend then and at first, when I was trying to be subtle, she denied everything outright. Then she shifted to gaslighting me about it and saying it was just a prank or that it was a test or that because she was cheated on before, she just needed to know that she could trust me. I told her that her being able to trust me was great, but how am I supposed to trust her now?

I confronted my girlfriend then and at first, when I was trying to be subtle, she denied everything outright. Then she shifted to gaslighting me about it and saying it was just a prank or that it was a test or that because she was cheated on before, she just needed to know that she could trust me. I told her that her being able to trust me was great, but how am I supposed to trust her now?

She said that made no sense and kept deflecting no matter how I tried to explain, going so far as to question how I even knew it was her if I wasn't cheating on her with my coworker. I told her that this was unfair and manipulative and that I needed some time and went home. She's been texting and calling since, saying that I'm ruining a great relationship over nothing.

She said that made no sense and kept deflecting no matter how I tried to explain, going so far as to question how I even knew it was her if I wasn't cheating on her with my coworker. I told her that this was unfair and manipulative and that I needed some time and went home. She's been texting and calling since, saying that I'm ruining a great relationship over nothing.

I'm overreacting and that when I finally realize how much she loves me, it might be too late and it's not fair for me to throw everything we built over some skank. But that just feels incredibly manipulative to me and like she doesn't get what she did wrong at all. So I'm conflicted between wanting to just cut and run and giving it another go... After all, we've been happy together for two years.

I'm overreacting and that when I finally realize how much she loves me, it might be too late and it's not fair for me to throw everything we built over some skank. But that just feels incredibly manipulative to me and like she doesn't get what she did wrong at all. So I'm conflicted between wanting to just cut and run and giving it another go... After all, we've been happy together for two years.

But also, can trust be rebuilt after something like this?

But also, can trust be rebuilt after something like this?

Okay, all right, pulling something out. Okay, and you got, oh! Throwing it out the window.