Shanthi Ranganathan

So my husband and I have been together for seven years.

We've been married for five and we have two small children, a three and a half year old and a two year old.

We clash about the chores constantly.

So I'm looking for some advice.

He feels that because he works full time, he can come home in the evening, have a meal cooked for him, and go to bed, and that's it.

The things like washing, hoovering, cleaning, getting the school bags ready, all of that comes under me.

Now, I do also work, but I'm a dog walker, so I work about four hours a day.

and then i do school pick up and drop off and so he feels that my job is a part-time job therefore it is my job to do all the chores yeah however i feel if he is going to wear the clothes and make them dirty he should contribute to washing them please can you give me your thoughts who is right who is wrong and also a way to stop this conflict because it's becoming a contest as to who does the most and who contributes the most and

Yeah, I just need to be a happy wife and have a happy life again.

Thank you from Kelly.

Darling, I feel for you.

I feel for you.

I didn't say it in that bit.

I do love her because it's exactly the same life I have.

He goes, pick up the briefcase and he goes to work.

After work, five o'clock, he goes to the clubs or pubs and he comes back.

I'm trying, that's what I'm aiming.

You can't change them.

That's the way they are going to be.

So don't worry too much.