Shayne Topp

Maybe she's just started to stop him and maybe it was like the note was just so big for her where she's like, you did, like I put a note and you're ignoring that?

Like that feels really big and intentional.

And I have to say like sometimes when,

Sometimes you can be really in the moment with, like, what happened, like, with the boundary being crossed and, like, really stewing over it.

Because, yeah, it sounded like in the Reddit post, like, this is something that's been going on for weeks.

I know.

But it honestly sounds like she only has started to put the boundary recently.

Mm-hmm.

I'm very much filling the gaps.

I don't know the timeline here, but anyways, she goes on to say, he promised he would take it more seriously moving forward and I take him at his word for all of it.

A big thank you to all of the sincere responses with suggestions because from all of that came a great solution.

He is a wonderful illustrator, so I'm going to mount a dry erase board on the back of my door for him to easily leave me messages.

But after more thought, too, I'm going to tell him later he can come in and kiss me goodbye and just ask him to do it somewhere less sensitive, like the top of my head, and not whisper directly in my ear.

Oh, yeah, that could be scary.

I'm going to work.

Is he also... He's kissing her goodbye.

Is he kissing her on... Stop, stop, stop, stop, stop.

If he's kissing her goodbye, was he kissing her on the lips while she's asleep?

All right, the responses to this post have given me a lot of perspective as I have also many times found myself scrolling, am I overreacting and am I the asshole post thinking, may this love never find me.

All of the comments of which I've only been able to read a fraction, both telling me I should ditch him and those saying he should ditch or cheat on me, have helped me appreciate how little of a window into a person's relationship these posts really give.