Shelly Johnson

And I really want to reassure everyone who if you're attending an American wedding, the etiquette around gift giving really is to do what's within your budget, you the guest.

And the registry is even just a suggestion list.

It is not a checklist for.

for anybody to go off of.

These are not must buys.

They're really set forth so that guests can have an idea of what the couple's into, what their style is, what they might really appreciate.

But by no means should anybody be saying, get me $150 gift.

That is not polite, not polite.

It's kind of like charging admission.

Yes, and that's not what we do.

And I would think they'd have certain people that say pound sand.

Right?

I imagine there are lots of no thank yous.

Well, here's one of the things is a traditional piece of wedding etiquette is that if you receive the invitation, you're really supposed to send a gift whether you attend or not.

So even if you don't go, there's still that obligation of a gift.

It's part of where utilizing a registry comes from.

It's part of...

the idea that this is such a special event, it's such an incredible moment in someone's life, that to be invited, you would probably still, you would probably want to get a gift for them and celebrate this moment in their lives.

But that's also why American weddings don't

do the thing that a lot of other cultures do, which is to invite the whole town, invite people you don't even know, you know, that sort of thing, where it's almost a gift to the community.