Simon Sinek

Okay. Number one, curiosity, right? I think very often in these circumstances, we leap to judgment. And it's hard because we're all judgmental bastards, right? Every single one of us, even the ones who say I'm not judgmental, I judge them. So we're all a little judgy and we have to work hard. It's a skill, just takes practice to try hard to replace the judgment with curiosity.

Okay. Number one, curiosity, right? I think very often in these circumstances, we leap to judgment. And it's hard because we're all judgmental bastards, right? Every single one of us, even the ones who say I'm not judgmental, I judge them. So we're all a little judgy and we have to work hard. It's a skill, just takes practice to try hard to replace the judgment with curiosity.

So first we have to understand what belonging means to them. When somebody says, I don't feel like I belong here, what they're saying is, I don't feel psychologically safe here. Or they're saying, I'm not sure I share the values. Or they're saying, I don't feel seen or heard here. You know, all I know is something is not right.

So first we have to understand what belonging means to them. When somebody says, I don't feel like I belong here, what they're saying is, I don't feel psychologically safe here. Or they're saying, I'm not sure I share the values. Or they're saying, I don't feel seen or heard here. You know, all I know is something is not right.

So first we have to understand what belonging means to them. When somebody says, I don't feel like I belong here, what they're saying is, I don't feel psychologically safe here. Or they're saying, I'm not sure I share the values. Or they're saying, I don't feel seen or heard here. You know, all I know is something is not right.

And the problem is when we don't feel like something fits, even we, the ones who don't feel like we belong, sometimes we don't know what the reason is. So we lash out and we're judgy and we're accusatory that you did this and you, but really I'm just uncomfortable and I don't really know why myself. And so we want curiosity and communication on both sides.

And the problem is when we don't feel like something fits, even we, the ones who don't feel like we belong, sometimes we don't know what the reason is. So we lash out and we're judgy and we're accusatory that you did this and you, but really I'm just uncomfortable and I don't really know why myself. And so we want curiosity and communication on both sides.

And the problem is when we don't feel like something fits, even we, the ones who don't feel like we belong, sometimes we don't know what the reason is. So we lash out and we're judgy and we're accusatory that you did this and you, but really I'm just uncomfortable and I don't really know why myself. And so we want curiosity and communication on both sides.

So if somebody doesn't feel like they belong, what I want them to do is raise their hands and say, Can I have an uncomfortable conversation with you? I've been dealing with this for a little bit. I thought it was me. I thought I had a bad night's sleep, but it's been going on for a while. And can I just talk it out with you? Which is, I don't know if I belong here.

So if somebody doesn't feel like they belong, what I want them to do is raise their hands and say, Can I have an uncomfortable conversation with you? I've been dealing with this for a little bit. I thought it was me. I thought I had a bad night's sleep, but it's been going on for a while. And can I just talk it out with you? Which is, I don't know if I belong here.

So if somebody doesn't feel like they belong, what I want them to do is raise their hands and say, Can I have an uncomfortable conversation with you? I've been dealing with this for a little bit. I thought it was me. I thought I had a bad night's sleep, but it's been going on for a while. And can I just talk it out with you? Which is, I don't know if I belong here.

I'm struggling for these reasons. And this is the story I'm telling myself. And I'm afraid of this story because I don't know if it's true or not, but I'm going off of it. The person they're talking to from work doesn't correct them. They're trying to understand that. They're trying to see where they can help. They're trying to see what parts are true and what parts are not true.

I'm struggling for these reasons. And this is the story I'm telling myself. And I'm afraid of this story because I don't know if it's true or not, but I'm going off of it. The person they're talking to from work doesn't correct them. They're trying to understand that. They're trying to see where they can help. They're trying to see what parts are true and what parts are not true.

I'm struggling for these reasons. And this is the story I'm telling myself. And I'm afraid of this story because I don't know if it's true or not, but I'm going off of it. The person they're talking to from work doesn't correct them. They're trying to understand that. They're trying to see where they can help. They're trying to see what parts are true and what parts are not true.

But the difficult part is sometimes, especially if you're dealing in a small business, an entrepreneurial venture, and the person you're talking to is the owner, it's so easy to get super defensive. And in almost all of these circumstances, what we see is a breakdown in communication.

But the difficult part is sometimes, especially if you're dealing in a small business, an entrepreneurial venture, and the person you're talking to is the owner, it's so easy to get super defensive. And in almost all of these circumstances, what we see is a breakdown in communication.

But the difficult part is sometimes, especially if you're dealing in a small business, an entrepreneurial venture, and the person you're talking to is the owner, it's so easy to get super defensive. And in almost all of these circumstances, what we see is a breakdown in communication.

And what ends up happening, the reason it gets escalated is because somebody handles the communication badly or somebody responds to the communication badly. And it's kind of like a fight with a loved one, right? Like the number of fights that I had with my girlfriend that went like this. Well, you started it. No, you started it. Well, here's the thing that you did that started it, okay?

And what ends up happening, the reason it gets escalated is because somebody handles the communication badly or somebody responds to the communication badly. And it's kind of like a fight with a loved one, right? Like the number of fights that I had with my girlfriend that went like this. Well, you started it. No, you started it. Well, here's the thing that you did that started it, okay?

And what ends up happening, the reason it gets escalated is because somebody handles the communication badly or somebody responds to the communication badly. And it's kind of like a fight with a loved one, right? Like the number of fights that I had with my girlfriend that went like this. Well, you started it. No, you started it. Well, here's the thing that you did that started it, okay?