Simon Sinek

It's a seesaw, right? Which is you can't expect someone to be vulnerable if you're not willing to be vulnerable back because it creates imbalance. Yeah. And I actually met some new friends just very recently. They're friends of friends. I went up to Seattle for work. And one of my friends who's from Seattle said, oh, you need to meet my friends. They live up there. You guys will get along.

So we all showed up as strangers. The three of us showed up as strangers. I mean, they know each other. They're married. But I went out with them just because our mutual friends said you guys should meet. And so we all took time. And I can't remember who started, but there was a lot of vulnerability happening. And you could feel that one side had opened up more than the other.

So we all showed up as strangers. The three of us showed up as strangers. I mean, they know each other. They're married. But I went out with them just because our mutual friends said you guys should meet. And so we all took time. And I can't remember who started, but there was a lot of vulnerability happening. And you could feel that one side had opened up more than the other.

So we all showed up as strangers. The three of us showed up as strangers. I mean, they know each other. They're married. But I went out with them just because our mutual friends said you guys should meet. And so we all took time. And I can't remember who started, but there was a lot of vulnerability happening. And you could feel that one side had opened up more than the other.

It was lopsided, right? And I think it was me who opened up a lot. And then they said, here, let us balance this out. And they were keenly aware of the balance of vulnerability. They started opening up an offering to make me feel safer. Because it was lopsided. You feel safe for a while until you start to feel insecure because it's so lopsided.

It was lopsided, right? And I think it was me who opened up a lot. And then they said, here, let us balance this out. And they were keenly aware of the balance of vulnerability. They started opening up an offering to make me feel safer. Because it was lopsided. You feel safe for a while until you start to feel insecure because it's so lopsided.

It was lopsided, right? And I think it was me who opened up a lot. And then they said, here, let us balance this out. And they were keenly aware of the balance of vulnerability. They started opening up an offering to make me feel safer. Because it was lopsided. You feel safe for a while until you start to feel insecure because it's so lopsided.

And they were so aware of that seesaw that they literally said, let me balance this out for you. Or do you want us to go first so that you're comfortable to speak? And it was amazing. And we talked about it. That became one of the topics of conversation. is how we were managing vulnerability as we were getting to know each other for the first time, that we were keeping the balance.

And they were so aware of that seesaw that they literally said, let me balance this out for you. Or do you want us to go first so that you're comfortable to speak? And it was amazing. And we talked about it. That became one of the topics of conversation. is how we were managing vulnerability as we were getting to know each other for the first time, that we were keeping the balance.

And they were so aware of that seesaw that they literally said, let me balance this out for you. Or do you want us to go first so that you're comfortable to speak? And it was amazing. And we talked about it. That became one of the topics of conversation. is how we were managing vulnerability as we were getting to know each other for the first time, that we were keeping the balance.

We were both taking turns to manage the balance. And I thought it was incredibly interesting and sophisticated. And by the way, amazing people. Like now they're like, I'm like mad about them. You know? Like genuine friends.

We were both taking turns to manage the balance. And I thought it was incredibly interesting and sophisticated. And by the way, amazing people. Like now they're like, I'm like mad about them. You know? Like genuine friends.

We were both taking turns to manage the balance. And I thought it was incredibly interesting and sophisticated. And by the way, amazing people. Like now they're like, I'm like mad about them. You know? Like genuine friends.

You can't do it with everyone. I think that's where people get it wrong. It's not a prescription, right? You can't say, here are the five things you need to do because if somebody's not willing to match you or go with you, it will feel unbalanced or insecure.

You can't do it with everyone. I think that's where people get it wrong. It's not a prescription, right? You can't say, here are the five things you need to do because if somebody's not willing to match you or go with you, it will feel unbalanced or insecure.

You can't do it with everyone. I think that's where people get it wrong. It's not a prescription, right? You can't say, here are the five things you need to do because if somebody's not willing to match you or go with you, it will feel unbalanced or insecure.

Or you might open up so much and the other person doesn't want to, and then you'll make yourself feel uncomfortable, but you make them feel uncomfortable too. And so this is why I say it's a dance, which is you give a little bit and do you get a little bit back?

Or you might open up so much and the other person doesn't want to, and then you'll make yourself feel uncomfortable, but you make them feel uncomfortable too. And so this is why I say it's a dance, which is you give a little bit and do you get a little bit back?

Or you might open up so much and the other person doesn't want to, and then you'll make yourself feel uncomfortable, but you make them feel uncomfortable too. And so this is why I say it's a dance, which is you give a little bit and do you get a little bit back?

And if you give a little bit and you get nothing back, you can take another risk and give a little bit more, but at some point you're going to have to stop. And it's not that they're bad people or that they won't make friends. It's some people are a little slower at opening up. And some people are a little quicker. And we have to allow these things to go at their own pace.