Simone Knego

One woman said to me at the end, and this was something that will stick with me forever, is I would have worn jeans, but I didn't know we were allowed to.

So a great reminder that we don't need permission to be ourselves, but we need to show up as ourselves every day.

So when I record the podcast with my daughter, most of the time my hair is in a ponytail.

There's no makeup on.

When I walk out the door half the time, I don't have makeup on.

I'm not worried about what anybody else thinks anymore.

when I do dress up and I do those things, I do it for me, not anybody else.

But people are so worried about being judged and what other people will think that they say, oh, if this person's doing it, then I have to do it too.

I read this great study where it was women, evaluating women when they go out to eat with friends or maybe even people they don't know that well, that if the other women at the table will order a salad,

That person will order a salad too, even if she wanted something different because she doesn't want to stray away from the norm and have people say, oh my gosh, she ordered the chicken wings.

Oh my gosh, what's wrong with her?

So I thought, well, okay, that's a crazy study that we don't even eat what we want to because we're so worried about being judged.

I agree with you 100%.

I feel like, would you say these things to your best friend?

Would you say negative comments all day long to someone you really cared about?

Okay, you really care about yourself.

We should not be saying these things to ourself.

And so all of these little comments that we make where we think it's not a big deal are

it builds up and it becomes a really big deal.

There's so many things I used to say to myself, especially when looking in the mirror, right?