Simone Stolzoff

Comfort is that voice that says, stay where you know it's safe.

You don't have to go outside of your comfort zone.

Hubris is that voice that says, you know what's best.

And control is that voice that says, you can plan everything.

You can be the architect of your future.

And on the flip side is a virtue that I think you might be able to access if you're able to become more comfortable with uncertainty.

So on the other side of comfort is growth.

If you're outside of your comfort zone, then you can learn things about yourself and the world that you wouldn't otherwise.

On the other side of hubris is humility.

If you're able to become more comfortable saying, I don't know, you can see the world as it is, as opposed to as you wish it to be.

And the third is control.

And on the flip side of control is acceptance, accepting that you're not able to control every single outcome.

And so each of the case studies in the book falls into one of these three categories.

But when I think about people who are really intolerant of uncertainty, often you can see one of these traps.

Either they're trying to control what they can't control, either they're overconfident in their own abilities, or they're too comfortable without being able to expose themselves outside.

I mean, talk about a need for control.

Yeah.

Ultimately, it makes us less adaptable and resilient.

You think about someone in the past who was able to

figure out how to brave the elements or figure out what to do if they didn't get the right dinner that they wanted to.