Simran Kaur

And the reason why I bring this up is she speaks about how she's had to work through some of the anger that she's had and the resentment that she's had towards her childhood.

And it is very humanizing because you kind of think, huh, we all have things in our life that we wish were different.

And you kind of go, wouldn't it have been nice if I wasn't dealt with these particular cards?

Wouldn't it be nice if these things were a little bit easier for me?

I could get ahead faster.

And one of the things I appreciate by this author in her book is that she acknowledges that she didn't have a very good upbringing, and yet it wasn't her reason to not try harder.

It wasn't her reason to not do well.

She kind of harnessed the frustration or her anger and said, okay, well, I'm going to build a better life for myself.

And she also then was able to heal and acknowledge that that's probably not very healthy to like use your anger as your motivation.

And so she went to therapy to try and address the issues that she's had.

But the second part that really got to me under this takeaway of like managing emotions is that Emma Greed spoke openly and very candidly about sadness.

And I'm going to read a little passage from the book that I highlighted because it just stuck with me.

so much she said there's a fair amount of mental illness in my family including a tendency for prolonged and debilitating depression this has always served as a warning sign for me i know i would need to tend to my emotional health so that i never found myself taking that at the knees and instead of denying my sadness and pain i would pay attention and then she goes on to say the expectation that you should wake up every day and feel like everything is fantastic and that you're killing it that you're the best wife the best mother and the best at work is not realistic

And you're setting yourself up to fail.

This is why I feel it's so important as a highly visible mother and woman in business to be honest that I have difficult days and not everything is easy.

I use the rule of thirds as a barometer for how I'm doing.

If things are too good, then I'm probably not pushing myself forward.

Or if I'm not seeing clearly or missing something.

And if things are too difficult, then the balance is out of whack.

I need to dial it back.