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You might not be real close to that person, but close enough so that you know them, you know of them, you interact with them at one point on and off. And so it causes kind of a, at least for me, it causes kind of an immediate reflection about that person. You might not attend their funeral. And that might be it as far as how you deal with it, but it still hits you.

And it causes us to be, I will say human, more human, connected maybe for that moment in time. Along with it, what I'd like to do is talk about what makes other people comfortable when somebody that has passed away. So for instance, I'll, I'll reflect on this. When my father passed away, I remember many people coming up to me and saying, literally, sorry for your loss.

And it causes us to be, I will say human, more human, connected maybe for that moment in time. Along with it, what I'd like to do is talk about what makes other people comfortable when somebody that has passed away. So for instance, I'll, I'll reflect on this. When my father passed away, I remember many people coming up to me and saying, literally, sorry for your loss.

And I remember thinking about that afterwards. It's like, it's well intent. But I also remember one gentleman who was very, very close to my father. They were good friends. And when we were doing Shiva, you know, after my father passed away, he came into the house and didn't say a word to me. He put his hand on my shoulder, and that was it.

And I remember thinking about that afterwards. It's like, it's well intent. But I also remember one gentleman who was very, very close to my father. They were good friends. And when we were doing Shiva, you know, after my father passed away, he came into the house and didn't say a word to me. He put his hand on my shoulder, and that was it.

And to this day, that nonverbal reaction sticks with me a lot. So it's not that you have to say something or you don't have to be compelled to say something. Just your mere presence of support is meaningful and in many ways healthy for people. The other thing that, um, that I'd like to reflect on and it links Sheridan to your, to your thoughts, um, are eulogies.

And to this day, that nonverbal reaction sticks with me a lot. So it's not that you have to say something or you don't have to be compelled to say something. Just your mere presence of support is meaningful and in many ways healthy for people. The other thing that, um, that I'd like to reflect on and it links Sheridan to your, to your thoughts, um, are eulogies.

It's like, you know, when you go in and you go to a funeral and you listen to a eulogy, whether it's given by a, um, a minister or pastor or rabbi, um, or family members or friends, um, It really is a reflection on a point in time and history with that person that has passed away. And for some, it's very, very needed. Very, very needed.

It's like, you know, when you go in and you go to a funeral and you listen to a eulogy, whether it's given by a, um, a minister or pastor or rabbi, um, or family members or friends, um, It really is a reflection on a point in time and history with that person that has passed away. And for some, it's very, very needed. Very, very needed.

And sometimes it gives reason or purpose to the person's passing away, especially if it was an unexpected death. Okay, so my goodness, there was a lot of great research. I highly recommend that everybody... check into the background research that Sheridan put together for this episode because it's really quite insightful.

And sometimes it gives reason or purpose to the person's passing away, especially if it was an unexpected death. Okay, so my goodness, there was a lot of great research. I highly recommend that everybody... check into the background research that Sheridan put together for this episode because it's really quite insightful.

So what we're dealing with here is health and somebody passing away, namely grief. How is it that you deal with grief? Barry, you made the point that everybody grieves differently. Some people get over it, I guess, it very, very quickly. Some people hang on to it, et cetera.

So what we're dealing with here is health and somebody passing away, namely grief. How is it that you deal with grief? Barry, you made the point that everybody grieves differently. Some people get over it, I guess, it very, very quickly. Some people hang on to it, et cetera.

I will tell you this, and one thing you didn't mention, Barry, was, and Maddie and myself, in Judaism, what happens is when somebody passes away and it happens to be your mother or your father, a very, very close one, typically the rabbi historically would tear your garment, like a piece of your clothing. Today, they give you like a black ribbon and tear it.

I will tell you this, and one thing you didn't mention, Barry, was, and Maddie and myself, in Judaism, what happens is when somebody passes away and it happens to be your mother or your father, a very, very close one, typically the rabbi historically would tear your garment, like a piece of your clothing. Today, they give you like a black ribbon and tear it.

And it's supposed to be symbolic of somebody who's been torn from your life. And You know, it's a visual, symbolic component to the grieving process. So with all of that, there's a lot of things that we all do. You know, we do flowers. We light candles. We, you know, we tear a garment. We put flowers at a gravesite.

And it's supposed to be symbolic of somebody who's been torn from your life. And You know, it's a visual, symbolic component to the grieving process. So with all of that, there's a lot of things that we all do. You know, we do flowers. We light candles. We, you know, we tear a garment. We put flowers at a gravesite.

In Jewish cemeteries, if you go to different gravestones, you will see people put rocks, little stones, by a grave site just as a reminder that they have visited and hopefully that that will provide comfort to those that have passed away. So let's talk about symbols a little bit and verbal things that people say. Any comments on that, Barry, Sheridan?

In Jewish cemeteries, if you go to different gravestones, you will see people put rocks, little stones, by a grave site just as a reminder that they have visited and hopefully that that will provide comfort to those that have passed away. So let's talk about symbols a little bit and verbal things that people say. Any comments on that, Barry, Sheridan?

as well. Unexpected versus expected. Somebody gets killed in a motor vehicle accident, or somebody gets shot, or an active service member gets killed in the line of duty. These are more shocking. and perhaps more difficult to deal with. But that's where truly family support, community support becomes very, very important.