Stephen Collar

flow all the time and i'm not noticing the passage of time it's really sped up that that way am i you're healing fast am i getting bigger faster yeah right is is this a way to get bigger and nobody knows answers that nobody's really looked at this because the wound healing stuff is new but like it's cool cutting edge stuff so you said seven to ten minutes breath work six oh yeah what's the five minute have you got five minutes only oh a gratitude list gratitude i was reading that gratitude practice your book a gratitude practice is five minutes if you've got six ten things

flow all the time and i'm not noticing the passage of time it's really sped up that that way am i you're healing fast am i getting bigger faster yeah right is is this a way to get bigger and nobody knows answers that nobody's really looked at this because the wound healing stuff is new but like it's cool cutting edge stuff so you said seven to ten minutes breath work six oh yeah what's the five minute have you got five minutes only oh a gratitude list gratitude i was reading that gratitude practice your book a gratitude practice is five minutes if you've got six ten things

No, well, you do one of two ways. Most psychologists, most like positive psychologists don't do the 10 things. They will say, write down three things you're grateful for. And this is what you can do in five minutes. Three things you're grateful for and turn one of them into a paragraph.

No, well, you do one of two ways. Most psychologists, most like positive psychologists don't do the 10 things. They will say, write down three things you're grateful for. And this is what you can do in five minutes. Three things you're grateful for and turn one of them into a paragraph.

And it's worth talking about sort of like, it's just worth talking about why that works because people hear gratitude and you hear it all over the fricking place. And it sounds to a lot of us, right? Unless you're come up in a spiritual tradition or things like that, it just seems wonky. So why would gratitude work? And it's important because gratitude works for the same reasons affirmations fail.

And it's worth talking about sort of like, it's just worth talking about why that works because people hear gratitude and you hear it all over the fricking place. And it sounds to a lot of us, right? Unless you're come up in a spiritual tradition or things like that, it just seems wonky. So why would gratitude work? And it's important because gratitude works for the same reasons affirmations fail.

We have phenomenal built-in bullshit. So if I'm looking in the mirror and I'm doing an affirmation, I'm a millionaire, I'm a millionaire, I'm a millionaire. And my mirror self is looking back at me and going, dude, you work at Walmart. Shut the fuck up. Right. It's demotivating. I'm lying to myself and I know I'm lying to myself and I'm really.

We have phenomenal built-in bullshit. So if I'm looking in the mirror and I'm doing an affirmation, I'm a millionaire, I'm a millionaire, I'm a millionaire. And my mirror self is looking back at me and going, dude, you work at Walmart. Shut the fuck up. Right. It's demotivating. I'm lying to myself and I know I'm lying to myself and I'm really.

But if I'm looking in the mirror and going, I am so happy and grateful that I woke up this morning and I'm breathing and my legs are working. Well, that's real. That's real. And if when you start listing things that you're grateful for the brain, we evolved in a high threat environment. So the brain is the word. This is a crazy word. Homeostasis. Homeostasis literally just means balance. Right.

But if I'm looking in the mirror and going, I am so happy and grateful that I woke up this morning and I'm breathing and my legs are working. Well, that's real. That's real. And if when you start listing things that you're grateful for the brain, we evolved in a high threat environment. So the brain is the word. This is a crazy word. Homeostasis. Homeostasis literally just means balance. Right.

So let me give you a crazy example. There's dopamine involved in this process. So the brain is a prediction engine. That's what it does all the time. It's always saying what's about to happen and how much energy do I need to meet that challenge? Remember, we go back to efficiency. The first order of business for the brain is save energy. Calories are fricking expensive.

So let me give you a crazy example. There's dopamine involved in this process. So the brain is a prediction engine. That's what it does all the time. It's always saying what's about to happen and how much energy do I need to meet that challenge? Remember, we go back to efficiency. The first order of business for the brain is save energy. Calories are fricking expensive.

It's hard to get food in the environments we evolved in. So how do I preserve energy? If you know the doorknob is open, you don't need to put your shoulder into the door and waste all that energy trying to bust the door open. You just turn the knob, right? So when you're reaching for that knob, your brain is trying to predict, is it going to be unlocked? How much energy do I need for that, right?

It's hard to get food in the environments we evolved in. So how do I preserve energy? If you know the doorknob is open, you don't need to put your shoulder into the door and waste all that energy trying to bust the door open. You just turn the knob, right? So when you're reaching for that knob, your brain is trying to predict, is it going to be unlocked? How much energy do I need for that, right?

Doing that all the time. When matches your prediction, you don't notice, right? You think the door is going to be unlocked. You open the door and walk through it. You didn't even notice that you did it. You notice when it doesn't match your prediction. And that noticing that like, oh, it's locked, that feeling you get, that's because dopamine has been cut off.

Doing that all the time. When matches your prediction, you don't notice, right? You think the door is going to be unlocked. You open the door and walk through it. You didn't even notice that you did it. You notice when it doesn't match your prediction. And that noticing that like, oh, it's locked, that feeling you get, that's because dopamine has been cut off.

So every time we match a prediction, you get a little bit of dopamine, a little bit of dopamine. And when we don't, It gets cut off. So you asked a question that started me talking about prediction. What was that? Let's back up into it.

So every time we match a prediction, you get a little bit of dopamine, a little bit of dopamine. And when we don't, It gets cut off. So you asked a question that started me talking about prediction. What was that? Let's back up into it.

God, I was starting, I'll just talk your face off and go on brand. No, I love this.

God, I was starting, I'll just talk your face off and go on brand. No, I love this.