Stephen Collar

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The Home Service Expert Podcast · Achieving 500% Productivity Through Flow States · 10 Jan 2025 podcast

When I made this list for the first time, laughing with my best friend ended up being number two on my list. If you were asking what my favorite activities are, laughing with my best friend would have not made the list. It wouldn't have come to me that way.

So what I tell people is you want to massively increase the quality of your life, make a top 10 list of your 10 favorite feelings and say no to everything that's not on the top 10 list. Because why would you waste time on like your 27th favorite activity or favorite feeling when you could actually go get more of the top 10?

If you're trying to go for like quality of life, that's a really simple metric. It's a really simple way to sort of like map things out.

I got random funny stories as we're talking. So this is just random, but so I opened at the biggest, biggest business conference in Europe for Obama. And the guy who was interviewing Obama on stage, I think we were in Sweden. I want to say it was the guy who used to run IKEA. I could be wrong. It might have been a different company.

But, you know, saunas are like the natural national culture once you get into like Sweden, Norway. Oh, yeah. Right. The guy spent the first 10 minutes of the interview with Obama. Mind you, 75,000 people in the like we're in like a stadium. And then there are like millions watching online. He's got Obama for, I don't know, half an hour.

The first 10 minutes for trying to get convinced Obama to take a sauna with him. It was the funniest thing I've ever seen was trying to watch a president get out of like getting into a sauna with some strange dude he's never met before. Especially if you're not, don't grow up in a sauna culture. Like, hey, let's go take a sauna together is not really the line you want out of a president.

One of the funnier things I've ever seen.

I mean, I just found that like laughing with my best friend. I also found there were a couple of things on my list that I was like, Oh, give us some examples. Um, well, I mean, so here's, here's the biggest frame for me. And this was the biggest, the number one on my list was, was powder skiing. And here's what really blew my mind about this.

This is sort of one of the things that led me to start looking flow is very involved in successful age. So like everybody who studied flow, including, you know, one of my mentors, but the end of their life, his career, his work, everybody's working on this adult development in the second half of your life. flow is one of the big drivers of adult development. So it's how we do this successfully.

So that's where this knowledge came from. But years ago, I made this list and number one was powder skiing. And I realized at the time, great powder days show up seven times a year. And, or maybe they show up 10 times a year, but I only managed to like get to the mountain six or seven times a year. So let's say I got there seven times a year.

And at the time I was doing this calculation, I want to say I was 50. 57 now. So average men are going to live to 82, right? That's on average. So let's just say it's average. I had 32 more. 32 years. She had about 210 times. Exactly. So I realized, well, I've got all these whiz bang friends who are doing longevity shit. So maybe I get an extra 10 years, right?

So maybe we can say it's 40 years and I get to do my favorite activity 280 times more period. If everything works perfectly, that's not a very big number. No. Right? It's really not a big number. So what the first- Better take advantage of it. You know what I did? I put a giant countdown clock on the wall in my office. It shows powder stays till death.

So I'm always like, it's really a way of focusing my attention on like what matters. And it also like, what it does is it stops me. I'm a workaholic like us. And a lot of my satisfaction and joy comes from that. So I don't take a lot of time off. And- Oftentimes, when I do take time off, it's because I've said yes to somebody. Hey, Steven, do you want to come to the Genius Network thing and hang?

It's those kinds of things. So that list of 10 things allows me to filter. It's like a vision board. What do I say yes to? What do I say no to? It's a framework for how do I say no to delicious things.

Yeah, I like writing. The famous one is Sir Edmund Hillary. There are people who like climbing Everest and there are people who like having climbed Everest. Yeah.

But just I mean, to me, like I love the writing. What's hard is the fact that like when the book is finished, the job is only half done, like the marketing of the book.

is equally difficult and takes the exact usually if it takes me like four years to write a book it's going to take about four years to promote it this is one of the things people don't get about books is they're not like tv shows like people you can't nobody it's not like a new album and everybody's going to go home and listen to the song in four minutes they take a while you were talking yesterday about like you're a slow reader right one of my new books comes out

and you're a good friend of mine and you like my work a lot. I know you're not going to read it with, it's going to take like six months to a year before you actually get through my book. So I know when I put a book out that it's going to take six years to percolate through the world minimum. And I've got a, like, that's my marketing window, right?

So however long I wrote it, I'm still like working for that book for an equally long period.

Yeah. You can definitely do it. I will also say like, one of the things that really shaped me was, was my friendship with Peter. Cause I've known Peter since the key. We were both in our twenties when we met and the X prize, I met Peter right when he founded the X prize. And I won't go into this. There's a long story, but like at this point, everybody in the world thought Peter was full of shit.

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