Stephen Dubner

I hate it.

I'm bad at it.

So what am I going to do?

It worked for Gwyneth, didn't it?

It really worked.

Everybody made fun of her.

I don't know anything about her really, but I do know that she said that about the relationship.

That would be my first answer to your question going back is you can't care

There's a quote I like by John Wooden, the late, great UCLA basketball coach who coached these teams some absurd number of college championships in a row, but was also known to be a great, it sounds like such a cliche, but a leader, a teacher, a coach.

He really, really affected the men that he coached, many of whom were very famous and many of whom became NBA players afterwards.

But anyway, he said two things about character that I like.

Because character is something I think about a lot.

Oh, exactly.

So you did your homework.

So this is from John Wood, and I could never make this up.

He said two things about character.

One of them is fairly famous, and I don't love it.

He said, character is what you do when no one is watching.

That's fine, but it's got a little bit of a godly, moralistic feeling to it.

I grew up in a family where that was a feeling, and it's not my preferred mode of feeling.