Steve

So by the age 30, you sort of, if you really just want to enjoy and kick ass beyond 30, you have to have solved the crisis of identity, which sort of shows up around age 12. And Erickson thought it used to disappear at 18. It doesn't, but it does. If you haven't solved it by 30, you have a problem. The reason is by 40, you need match fit. Match fit is an economics term. It means

So by the age 30, you sort of, if you really just want to enjoy and kick ass beyond 30, you have to have solved the crisis of identity, which sort of shows up around age 12. And Erickson thought it used to disappear at 18. It doesn't, but it does. If you haven't solved it by 30, you have a problem. The reason is by 40, you need match fit. Match fit is an economics term. It means

There's a tight link between who I am and what I do in the world, right? If you just, if you don't know who you are, you can't get match fit because there's no, if you don't know your strengths, your values, all that stuff. So that has to be by 30, by 40, we need to be, we have match fit. And then by 50, We need forgiveness. We've got to forgive ourselves for past embarrassments and past shames.

There's a tight link between who I am and what I do in the world, right? If you just, if you don't know who you are, you can't get match fit because there's no, if you don't know your strengths, your values, all that stuff. So that has to be by 30, by 40, we need to be, we have match fit. And then by 50, We need forgiveness. We've got to forgive ourselves for past embarrassments and past shames.

There's a tight link between who I am and what I do in the world, right? If you just, if you don't know who you are, you can't get match fit because there's no, if you don't know your strengths, your values, all that stuff. So that has to be by 30, by 40, we need to be, we have match fit. And then by 50, We need forgiveness. We've got to forgive ourselves for past embarrassments and past shames.

There's a tight link between who I am and what I do in the world, right? If you just, if you don't know who you are, you can't get match fit because there's no, if you don't know your strengths, your values, all that stuff. So that has to be by 30, by 40, we need to be, we have match fit. And then by 50, We need forgiveness. We've got to forgive ourselves for past embarrassments and past shames.

There's a tight link between who I am and what I do in the world, right? If you just, if you don't know who you are, you can't get match fit because there's no, if you don't know your strengths, your values, all that stuff. So that has to be by 30, by 40, we need to be, we have match fit. And then by 50, We need forgiveness. We've got to forgive ourselves for past embarrassments and past shames.

And we've got to forgive those who have done us harm. And as you pointed out, I spent most of my childhood losing fights to jocks. I was a punk rocker. The jocks didn't like us. I didn't like them. And this was back in the 70s and 80s. And you've got to understand, cars of football players would pull up on the side of the road, and they'd see a guy with a mohawk, and they'd jump out to beat you up.

And we've got to forgive those who have done us harm. And as you pointed out, I spent most of my childhood losing fights to jocks. I was a punk rocker. The jocks didn't like us. I didn't like them. And this was back in the 70s and 80s. And you've got to understand, cars of football players would pull up on the side of the road, and they'd see a guy with a mohawk, and they'd jump out to beat you up.

And we've got to forgive those who have done us harm. And as you pointed out, I spent most of my childhood losing fights to jocks. I was a punk rocker. The jocks didn't like us. I didn't like them. And this was back in the 70s and 80s. And you've got to understand, cars of football players would pull up on the side of the road, and they'd see a guy with a mohawk, and they'd jump out to beat you up.

And we've got to forgive those who have done us harm. And as you pointed out, I spent most of my childhood losing fights to jocks. I was a punk rocker. The jocks didn't like us. I didn't like them. And this was back in the 70s and 80s. And you've got to understand, cars of football players would pull up on the side of the road, and they'd see a guy with a mohawk, and they'd jump out to beat you up.

And we've got to forgive those who have done us harm. And as you pointed out, I spent most of my childhood losing fights to jocks. I was a punk rocker. The jocks didn't like us. I didn't like them. And this was back in the 70s and 80s. And you've got to understand, cars of football players would pull up on the side of the road, and they'd see a guy with a mohawk, and they'd jump out to beat you up.

There's a tight link between who I am and what I do in the world, right? If you just, if you don't know who you are, you can't get match fit because there's no, if you don't know your strengths, your values, all that stuff. So that has to be by 30, by 40, we need to be, we have match fit. And then by 50, we need forgiveness. We got to forgive ourselves for like past embarrassments and past shames.

There's a tight link between who I am and what I do in the world, right? If you just, if you don't know who you are, you can't get match fit because there's no, if you don't know your strengths, your values, all that stuff. So that has to be by 30, by 40, we need to be, we have match fit. And then by 50, we need forgiveness. We got to forgive ourselves for like past embarrassments and past shames.

There's a tight link between who I am and what I do in the world, right? If you just, if you don't know who you are, you can't get match fit because there's no, if you don't know your strengths, your values, all that stuff. So that has to be by 30, by 40, we need to be, we have match fit. And then by 50, we need forgiveness. We got to forgive ourselves for like past embarrassments and past shames.

There's a tight link between who I am and what I do in the world, right? If you just, if you don't know who you are, you can't get match fit because there's no, if you don't know your strengths, your values, all that stuff. So that has to be by 30, by 40, we need to be, we have match fit. And then by 50, we need forgiveness. We got to forgive ourselves for like past embarrassments and past shames.

There's a tight link between who I am and what I do in the world, right? If you just, if you don't know who you are, you can't get match fit because there's no, if you don't know your strengths, your values, all that stuff. So that has to be by 30, by 40, we need to be, we have match fit. And then by 50, we need forgiveness. We got to forgive ourselves for like past embarrassments and past shames.

And it was like five against one always. And it was not a great situation. So I had a lot of anger. And I knew peak performance aging, you got to put that shit down. You cannot thrive in your 50s. You don't get these superpowers, which is why old dogs can learn new tricks better than young dogs. It's why one of the reasons I learned park skiing so fast is I have more intelligence.

And it was like five against one always. And it was not a great situation. So I had a lot of anger. And I knew peak performance aging, you got to put that shit down. You cannot thrive in your 50s. You don't get these superpowers, which is why old dogs can learn new tricks better than young dogs. It's why one of the reasons I learned park skiing so fast is I have more intelligence.

And it was like five against one always. And it was not a great situation. So I had a lot of anger. And I knew peak performance aging, you got to put that shit down. You cannot thrive in your 50s. You don't get these superpowers, which is why old dogs can learn new tricks better than young dogs. It's why one of the reasons I learned park skiing so fast is I have more intelligence.