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The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

Is that possible? Because the vision of masculinity, this is something Scott's talked about, that the left portrays is not, doesn't seem to be in line with all the things we've just described that we feel intuitively as men. The things we think are important, like economic viability, being strong, you know.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

Is that possible? Because the vision of masculinity, this is something Scott's talked about, that the left portrays is not, doesn't seem to be in line with all the things we've just described that we feel intuitively as men. The things we think are important, like economic viability, being strong, you know.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

Those are the people that whisper to me in the streets about these conversations. It's the 40 to 55-year-old mother who has a son, who doesn't feel like she can speak up, but says to me privately that she's worried about her kids. And actually, we had some mothers write in, all of which wanted to stay anonymous. saying this exact same thing. They've got an 18-year-old son. They're super concerned.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

Those are the people that whisper to me in the streets about these conversations. It's the 40 to 55-year-old mother who has a son, who doesn't feel like she can speak up, but says to me privately that she's worried about her kids. And actually, we had some mothers write in, all of which wanted to stay anonymous. saying this exact same thing. They've got an 18-year-old son. They're super concerned.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

They've got a 16-year-old son. The son looks lost. As the stats show from the report, they're not leaving home in the same way that women, their daughters leave home, but they don't know what to do about it. So for those parents that are listening now, we can't change society. What would you recommend a parent of a young boy does?

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

They've got a 16-year-old son. The son looks lost. As the stats show from the report, they're not leaving home in the same way that women, their daughters leave home, but they don't know what to do about it. So for those parents that are listening now, we can't change society. What would you recommend a parent of a young boy does?

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

Yeah, I've never thought about that before, but it's so true that like, as a man, you should aspire to be considered generous, right? And actually the first time someone called me generous was like such an unbelievably wonderful compliment to me because it means that people see you as someone that's giving things.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

Yeah, I've never thought about that before, but it's so true that like, as a man, you should aspire to be considered generous, right? And actually the first time someone called me generous was like such an unbelievably wonderful compliment to me because it means that people see you as someone that's giving things.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

But to answer your question, for me, it was just a willingness to express my emotions when I'm struggling. That's always been a difficult thing for me, especially because of everything I've said earlier about wanting to be a strong, wanting to be a provider. There are gonna be moments where regardless of how well you play the game of life, you're gonna struggle. And I did not have the tools.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

But to answer your question, for me, it was just a willingness to express my emotions when I'm struggling. That's always been a difficult thing for me, especially because of everything I've said earlier about wanting to be a strong, wanting to be a provider. There are gonna be moments where regardless of how well you play the game of life, you're gonna struggle. And I did not have the tools.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

I still really don't have great tools for this, but to turn to someone and say, I'm really struggling with this and not to feel emasculated. And I would say that because as a man... Pretty much the only person you have in your life typically that you can turn to is your romantic partner. That's also the last person you want to turn to and say you're struggling.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

I still really don't have great tools for this, but to turn to someone and say, I'm really struggling with this and not to feel emasculated. And I would say that because as a man... Pretty much the only person you have in your life typically that you can turn to is your romantic partner. That's also the last person you want to turn to and say you're struggling.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

Because again, for me, that felt like I was being emasculated. So I remember the day very vividly when I was like 30 years old, turning to my girlfriend and like running the experiment of letting her know that I was struggling with something. And how difficult that was. But the only reason I did it was because I almost felt like I had no fucking choice.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

Because again, for me, that felt like I was being emasculated. So I remember the day very vividly when I was like 30 years old, turning to my girlfriend and like running the experiment of letting her know that I was struggling with something. And how difficult that was. But the only reason I did it was because I almost felt like I had no fucking choice.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

I'd gotten to the point where I was like, I need to tell someone this. And she was the only person. And I still don't think I tell my guy friends. Everything. I would tell them some things, but I don't think I'd tell them everything.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

I'd gotten to the point where I was like, I need to tell someone this. And she was the only person. And I still don't think I tell my guy friends. Everything. I would tell them some things, but I don't think I'd tell them everything.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

And when I look at the stats around mental health and depression, which are absolutely horrific, and some of these quotes that we had from some of the guys that wrote into the show, this guy Liam said, for me, the biggest challenge that young men face today is I feel like I'm striving for meaning, but I can't find it anywhere.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

And when I look at the stats around mental health and depression, which are absolutely horrific, and some of these quotes that we had from some of the guys that wrote into the show, this guy Liam said, for me, the biggest challenge that young men face today is I feel like I'm striving for meaning, but I can't find it anywhere.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

I struggle to even sleep at night with some form of substance because my brain is constantly firing different scenarios at me that I'm failing in my life. When I am alone with my thoughts, it's like having a never-ending lesson about how useless I am and how I need to change everything in my life. And the hardest part is I can't even tell anybody this because I would feel weak.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

I struggle to even sleep at night with some form of substance because my brain is constantly firing different scenarios at me that I'm failing in my life. When I am alone with my thoughts, it's like having a never-ending lesson about how useless I am and how I need to change everything in my life. And the hardest part is I can't even tell anybody this because I would feel weak.