Steven

And there was a line you said in it, which I thought was quite interesting, which is, I wish you as much rejection as possible because that will increase your self-confidence. Are you also saying that in the BBC Maestro piece that confidence is the number one thing you get asked about? I wish you as much rejection as possible.

That kind of goes back to what we were saying earlier about how going through difficult shit is the best way to build a thicker skin. But who on earth wants to go through rejection? Who on earth, what kind of psychopath is going to self-elect to go through rejection?

That kind of goes back to what we were saying earlier about how going through difficult shit is the best way to build a thicker skin. But who on earth wants to go through rejection? Who on earth, what kind of psychopath is going to self-elect to go through rejection?

On that point of better understanding yourself, the other thing I found was this thing you talk about, which is the animal wheel, which is a framework that helps people understand themselves by finding out what their communication style is. I'll put this animal wheel on the screen for people that are watching on video.

On that point of better understanding yourself, the other thing I found was this thing you talk about, which is the animal wheel, which is a framework that helps people understand themselves by finding out what their communication style is. I'll put this animal wheel on the screen for people that are watching on video.

But for people that can't see because they're listening on Spotify or Apple or somewhere else, can you explain to me what this animal wheel is?

But for people that can't see because they're listening on Spotify or Apple or somewhere else, can you explain to me what this animal wheel is?

So on this wheel, the reason why it's a wheel is because the behavior that I'm getting is on the outside and the response that I should give them is the thing on the inside. Is that right? Yeah.

So on this wheel, the reason why it's a wheel is because the behavior that I'm getting is on the outside and the response that I should give them is the thing on the inside. Is that right? Yeah.

So how do I know using this wheel which response I should give? So you're telling me that on the outside of the wheel is the bad version of that animal, and on the inside of the wheel is the good version of that animal. How do I find which response to give based on the behavior?

So how do I know using this wheel which response I should give? So you're telling me that on the outside of the wheel is the bad version of that animal, and on the inside of the wheel is the good version of that animal. How do I find which response to give based on the behavior?

T-Rex, so attacking, punitive, sarcastic.

T-Rex, so attacking, punitive, sarcastic.

I mean, you see that a lot with bad cops, right? So they pull someone over to arrest them and the person becomes a T-Rex that they're trying to arrest. They start insulting them. And then the cop ends up getting a disciplinary case because they react like a T-Rex. They take the bait.

I mean, you see that a lot with bad cops, right? So they pull someone over to arrest them and the person becomes a T-Rex that they're trying to arrest. They start insulting them. And then the cop ends up getting a disciplinary case because they react like a T-Rex. They take the bait.

If the person's calling you a F, Y, Z, whatever, they then start doing it back and elbowing them and are getting aggressive. And then you see these other examples of really exceptional police where they're being verbally insulted And they have total composure.

If the person's calling you a F, Y, Z, whatever, they then start doing it back and elbowing them and are getting aggressive. And then you see these other examples of really exceptional police where they're being verbally insulted And they have total composure.

And it's like they're unfazed.

And it's like they're unfazed.

Even if your mouth is... You said something earlier, which I think is an important point of nuance here, which is it doesn't mean you have to be passive. It just means that when you, as you said, decide to burn it down, you're doing it intentionally, not being controlled by some emotional puppet master. Yeah.